For a married woman, finding out about her husband's betrayal is an ordeal. Moreover, in those cases when the family looked prosperous and nothing, it would seem, foreshadowed such a sad event. How to live on, how to behave in such a situation?
Instructions
Step 1
A wife who found out that her husband cheated on her, especially if she is impressionable, emotional, at such moments it may seem that the earth is slipping from under her feet. The woman is very worried, feels betrayed, insulted. Often the pain of resentment is so great that it is tempting to file for divorce immediately. But it's worth stopping.
Step 2
Make your decision by calming down and thinking it over. Your emotions, feelings are understandable and natural. Moreover, women are generally more emotional than men. However, important decisions are not made in a hurry. Try to calm down all the same, pull yourself together. It is not easy, but absolutely necessary. Otherwise, you simply will not be able to reason objectively and impartially.
Step 3
When the first, most powerful emotions subside, answer yourself to the main question: are you ready, despite the insult, to continue married life with an unfaithful husband. Be as honest as possible, frank with yourself. You should not seek advice on this delicate topic either with relatives or friends. Make your own decision by weighing the pros and cons.
Step 4
If you feel that you cannot forgive the betrayal, try to disperse peacefully, in a civilized manner, without quarrels and scandals, and maintain good relations. This is especially important if there are children in the family for whom the divorce of their parents will be a severe blow anyway.
Step 5
If you are ready to forgive your husband, try to find an exact answer to a very important question: why did he cheat on you? Your family happiness and well-being will largely depend on the answer to it (and your subsequent reaction).
Step 6
Finding out the reason for cheating means preventing it in the future. Some women, finding themselves in your situation, succumb to the quite understandable and natural temptation to blame only the unfaithful husband, and to consider themselves an innocent offended sufferer. Try to avoid this mistake and not only state the fact of treason, but also figure out why it happened. After all, your husband once chose you from a great many women, you were the best and most beloved for him. Why has everything changed? Try to objectively assess your appearance, behavior, habits. You can honestly ask your husband: "What did you miss, what did I do wrong?"
Step 7
If you are overweight - exercise, go on a diet. If you were too constrained, shy in bed, try to relax, read books on sex techniques. If your home lacked warmth, sensitivity, mutual respect, make adjustments to your behavior, try to become kind, friendly. And then the husband will again consider you the best.
