Family life with its household chores and numerous worries about children contributes to the attenuation of a woman's sexual desire. But it is enough just to throw off a part of this burden in order to return pleasure to life.
Cooling reasons
Psychologists are the first in the list of reasons that cause a weakening of sexual attraction to a spouse, called stress. It is true that life is not easy for a married working woman, but if everything is in order in the relationship itself, this cannot be a reason for refusing to have sex. This means that in the absence of attraction to her husband, one should blame not our “modern life”, but something else.
Of course, problems at work, in everyday life, overwhelm the cup of women's patience and she can no longer perceive her husband as her stone wall. As a consequence, the denial of him as a strong male. That is, at the level of instincts, a woman understands that this partner is unreliable and that it would be nice to find another. At a conscious level, at this moment, the husband hears: "I'm tired and squeezed out like a lemon!"
A woman who is concerned about the lack of sexual interest in her husband will have to first answer herself a few questions, and then discuss the problem with her husband. The situations in each such case are different, but the main questions sound something like this:
1. Do you have the opportunity to do only at home, will your husband be able to take full financial support of the family?
2. If your husband earns enough, will it change your attitude towards him and will it revive your sex life?
3. What prevents you from relaxing: thoughts about work and life or irritation from inappropriate actions of your husband?
4. What should your spouse do to make you feel burning sexual desire?
5. Do you still love your husband?
By answering these questions, you are likely to discover a lot about yourself and your relationship with your spouse.
How to return attraction to your husband
If you decide to fight for the preservation of your family, and the sexual side of married life plays a huge role in this, then you need to take certain steps for this. If the reason for unwillingness is everyday fatigue from household chores, with a clear conscience, shift some of the responsibilities to your husband or give them up! Perhaps a hungry spouse in crumpled clothes that smells of sweat will seem incredibly sexy to you, especially after a lazy day with a book on the couch.
Analyze your sexual fantasies. Who do you see there, how does the object of desires differ from your husband? Try to share your fantasies with your spouse and encourage him to make any changes in appearance, behavior. Of course, these changes don't always have to go outside your bedroom.
Do not push your desire if you think this is not the right time for it. There is a place and time for a lot in a married life between a husband and wife who understand each other. For example, if the sight of your spouse coming out of the shower in one towel turned you on, don't put off sex until the evening. The body will not understand you and will surely take revenge by the extinction of attraction, which you do not use.
