"She doesn't want me!" - this is the conclusion that most men draw if a woman refuses them to have sex. It's actually not that simple. There are several reasons why a partner may avoid intimacy.
Fatigue and physical discomfort
The notorious headache that women refer to when refusing to have sex has long been the talk of the town. Meanwhile, this reason is in most cases quite real. A headache is not always a migraine, but accumulated fatigue, heaviness in the head, high blood pressure. In such a state, it is generally difficult to perform any body movements, and you just want to lie down and rest.
Intimate discomfort as a reason for rejection can be no less serious. Lower abdominal pain, impending critical days, constipation, bloating, discomfort during sex - all this can negate a woman's libido. When it comes to intimate problems, the partner may prefer to hide these reasons by inventing any others.
Involuntary witnesses
Having a stable sex life, if you live with someone instead of two on your living space, is a more than difficult task. If sex in a public place, with the risk of being noticed, can turn some people on, then the presence of the mother-in-law in the next room will certainly discourage all desire. It is even more difficult if there are children in the house. The little ones can unexpectedly enter and interfere with the process, the older ones can see or hear, having received a real psychological trauma.
Men, as a rule, are less anxious to sleep off these factors, while for a woman potential unwitting witnesses of intimacy are one hundred percent taboo.
She is not ready
"How many girls were saved from casual sex by the lack of hair removal" - this popular joke is based on one of the most common reasons for denial of intimacy. It is enough for a man to undress and take a shower, and he is already ready for intercourse. A woman usually needs much more preliminary manipulation. This is why sometimes a partner creates ideal conditions for lovemaking, or does not see any obstacles at all, but receives an uncompromising rejection. She didn't actually do the proverbial hair removal. She may be wearing ugly underwear. Even a banal pimple on the back can stop her. These are just a few of the reasons why a woman will refuse sex. When it comes to long-term relationships, the moments of awkwardness become less and less, however, during the romantic period of courtship, great attention is paid to complete trifles.
At the beginning of a relationship, a woman may be embarrassed by problems with a figure or cellulite. Perhaps she is at the stage of losing weight and sincerely believes that after losing 3-4 kg, the problem will disappear in the near future. Few of the ladies suspect that for most men, especially in a state of arousal, almost all of these factors may seem insignificant. Moreover, he may not notice anything at all.
Psychological difficulties
Perhaps this is one of the most difficult facts, since the spectrum of psychological problems can be enormous. A man needs to understand the main thing: it is almost impossible to guess the true reasons on his own. There can be hundreds of psychological reasons.
A woman can be depressed or depressed. She may be experiencing childhood or adult trauma. She may be overcome by complexes, doubts and fears about your closeness. She may suspect you of treason or change herself, while tormented by mental anguish. It is impossible to solve the problem without long and frank conversations. Spiritual closeness and the ability to find a common language, not being embarrassed by delicate topics, will help in solving all psychological nuances.
Cunning and manipulation
Quickly agreeing to sex means demonstrating your availability: many women are guided by this postulate. There is a reasonable grain in this, so the fair sex often begins to use sex as a weapon. To "marinate" a man as long as possible: the lady begins to adhere to this tactic in order to increase her own importance, to give the man the opportunity to feel like a conqueror.
Sex manipulation can also be for selfish purposes. A woman can refuse intimacy. to demonstrate your resentment and disregard. It is possible that she wants to receive a certain gift or achieve her goal through a man. However, often men themselves willingly join such a game, heating up passions in relationships.
