No matter how hard you try to maintain a calm appearance, a divorce will still have a stressful effect on your body. But this is a fixable thing. Right now, you have a chance to start life anew. Who knows, maybe it will be more interesting and pleasant than the previous one. But before you start arranging your personal life, you need to get rid of stress and put yourself in order.
Instructions
Step 1
In the early days, you will most likely hide from people and cry. Cry! Don't be ashamed of your tears. This will help release resentment and bitterness. But do not delay the process for a long time, otherwise you risk settling into the position of a "victim" and delaying the recovery process for a long time.
Step 2
After the tears have been shed, accept the help of family and friends. In conversations with them, try to give a full and detailed assessment of the one that left you. By pouring out your soul and paying tribute to the anger that has appeared, you will cleanse yourself of negativity and begin to more calmly perceive everything that happened.
Step 3
Don't try to numb your pain with alcoholic beverages, it won't help. You simply run the risk of joining the ranks of alcoholics who have not managed to get out of a difficult situation with the help of only their will. And in order to fill the void in the apartment and heart, get a pet. Necessarily soft and fluffy. A dog or a cat. You will have someone to give love to. In addition, communication with animals has a beneficial effect on the nervous system.
Step 4
If you feel that you are not coping with the situation, and every day your depression gets worse, see a specialist. With the help of specially developed techniques and, possibly, medications, the psychotherapist will return you the desire to live and enjoy it.
Step 5
If a man leaves you not alone, but with a child, try to correct your behavior. Do not forget that no matter how you treat your ex-husband, he did not become a former father from this. Don't let yourself insult your dad in front of your child. Do not interfere with their meetings. Remember that in this case, trying to take revenge on the offender, you strike at the child's psyche. By the way, it happens that a child helps to forget about the feeling of revenge and reconciles two adults, forcing them to communicate with each other respectfully.
Step 6
And only after passing all these stages, you will become able to take a realistic look at the situation and think about your future. Take care of your appearance, chat with friends, put things in order. But the most important thing in all this is to find something new for yourself that can truly captivate you. It doesn't matter what it will be - embroidery, dancing, tourism. The main thing is that this business occupies all your thoughts and does not allow a return to the past.
