Divorce is almost always stressful, an ordeal. And in order not to fall into depression after it, not to get sick, we must try to psychologically competently treat this event and see the advantages in it.
Give free rein to your feelings, do not hold back emotions, tears, if they help: remember that this is natural after a divorce, give yourself the opportunity to cry. It is good if there is a suitable "vest" nearby - a reliable, understanding friend or loved one. Trust him at least part of your feelings - it will become much easier to breathe.
Don't sit back. Taking action will help fight unnecessary resentment and self-criticism. If possible, make repairs, renovate the apartment completely - as your soul desires. Throw unnecessary things out of the house without regrets, including those that remind you of your ex-spouse. Though what makes you feel good is worth keeping.
Bright colors are what you need now: enrich your furnishings, furniture, change dark colors of clothes, accessories to light ones. From bright colors, the psyche automatically begins to develop positive emotions, set you up in an optimistic mood.
Do not withdraw into yourself, think about friends, colleagues, relatives - talk to them, discuss everything that is interesting to you, delve into their problems. Perhaps someone is now in dire need of your support, longs for your advice, sympathy, waiting for help. Listen to your heart not only in relation to your troubles.
Don't play with fire: Don't drown your sorrow in wine, although sometimes it seems like an easy way to get rid of dark thoughts. But know that 80% of women become alcoholics precisely because of a divorce, a break with a loved one. Distract yourself with something less destructive: start learning a foreign language or take up exotic dancing. It's a good idea to have an animal - a cat or a dog. Communication with our younger brothers perfectly heals mental wounds.
If insomnia, headaches, melancholy, apathy, excessive self-pity not only do not disappear, but even worsen, then it is time to see a specialist. A psychologist or psychotherapist will help you get out of the abyss of despair on solid ground.
