In a nursing baby, crying is the only way to get attention. Therefore, if the baby is hungry or he needs to change his diaper, he starts crying in order to draw the attention of adults to his problem. At this stage of growing up, crying is a natural means of communication with the outside world. And what to do when the child grows up? How to stop him from crying?
Necessary
child psychologist consultation
Instructions
Step 1
Do not cultivate a desire in your child to attract attention by crying. When the child is already able to explain in words what he needs, communicate with him in this, already new for him, language. Many mothers ignore the child's verbal requests, then, naturally, he begins to sob at the top of his voice, so to speak, tries already proven ways to reach out to the mother. And only then does the mother pay attention to him, thus, the belief is fixed in the child's mind that crying is a great way to get what he wants. Therefore, be sure to listen to your child when he asks for something. Even if you cannot fulfill his request, calmly explain to the baby in words why you cannot take a walk now, but go home. Or why don't you buy him this toy right now, but do it tomorrow. In other words, don't make your baby cry.
Step 2
Firmly tell the crying baby who comes to you asking that you will help him only when he stops crying. Usually children, no matter what character or temperament they have, listen and stop crying. And the constant practice of such communication disaccates them from crying altogether. The child begins to look at crying as an unnecessary stage of communication with parents. He understands - they listen to me when I immediately start talking. And the problems associated with endless tantrums disappear by themselves. A new "adult" way of communication appears - conversation.
Step 3
Caress your baby, be attentive to him. For many children, crying tantrums are just a way to gain parental approval. Therefore, give your baby your attention for free. Then he won't have to make a flood of tears in order to get the simplest and most natural thing that he should receive - your love. Do not miss the opportunity to spend your free time with him. Cancel "grown-up" things for his sake. Only in this way will he understand that you need him as well as he needs you.
Step 4
Ask your child why daddy never cries? Let the little one think about it. The father is the authority in the family, especially for boys. Let the father talk to his son about why you should not advertise your emotions, upsetting mom and upset yourself.
