Choosing between two men is always difficult. The feelings that a woman has for both of them make it difficult to make a final decision. If you are faced with such a choice, study each of the men, trust the opinion of people close to you and your own intuition.
Instructions
Step 1
Explore the positive aspects of each of the men. Your feelings will prevent you from making a rational choice, but you need to make an effort and try to understand why you like a particular person, why do you love him? Perhaps a man is extremely interesting to you because he is able to captivate with his ideas and interests, or he has a good sense of humor and you always have fun with him. These qualities can inspire others, they make people look at the world in a new way.
Step 2
Determine what you dislike about these men. It is impossible to make a decision on the final choice until the negative aspects of each of them are considered. A person may have many virtues, perhaps you like him, but the negative side of him that you do not notice may be unacceptable to you. The choice of this man in this case will be wrong. Pay attention, for example, to how he communicates with you and others. Perhaps he likes to manipulate or command. Selfishness in a person is difficult to notice if you are overwhelmed with feelings for him. Try to distract yourself and take a closer look at the man, you will see his negative sides.
Step 3
Compare the feelings you have with each of the men. The revealed merits of one of the men may seem defining to you. However, it is possible that the other man can make you feel happy with just his presence. Pay attention to whether you are comfortable next to a man, whether you like his compliments, whether they seem tense to you. Do you feel that his attention is drawn only to you, does he compare you with other women? Such a comparison will help you understand how each of the men affects your emotional state and your feelings.
Step 4
Try to trust the opinion of the outside, ask friends, find out what they think about your relationship. However, do not ask them direct questions, do not try to ask them what choice you should make. Just ask how your relationship looks from the outside. If you've already made a decision, it probably doesn't make sense to ask the opinion of others. However, be prepared to take advice, if it is given, the outside view may be less biased.
Step 5
Learn to trust your intuition. Take advantage of the experience of past relationships, if you had any. Perhaps you have already met men with similar traits and your relationship has not ended well. In this case, you should not blindly believe your feelings.
