Falling in love or habit, passion or stability, wife or lover? If you are faced with such a difficult choice, then you need to think carefully before deciding to leave the family. Analyze Your Relationship And stay with the woman who can make you happy.
Instructions
Step 1
Give yourself time. There is no need to rush to leave the family because of the woman you have been dating for a couple of months. Even if the passion is off the charts, give yourself a year. It is this period of time, according to psychologists, is needed in order for falling in love to end. If after this time you will still be overwhelmed with feelings, then you can think about a divorce from your wife.
Step 2
Compare the everyday aspects of life with both women. After all, life is not only about sex and romantic dates, so take a look at how your new lover relates to household chores. Feelings will not save the relationship if you go without dinner day after day.
Step 3
If you have children in your marriage, then you must worry in advance about how you will communicate with them if you leave the family. Unobtrusively ask your spouse how she would act in such a situation. Maybe she will interfere with your communication. In this case, you need to take care of finding a good lawyer in advance. Pay attention to how the mistress treats your children. It is unlikely that you will be good with a woman who cannot love and accept them.
Step 4
Analyze the relationship of your beloved women to you. Perhaps your marriage is based only on habit, and your spouse has not loved you for a long time. Despite your passion, be critical of your lover's feelings as well. If she is significantly younger than you, think about it, maybe she is pursuing mercantile goals and just wants you to provide her.
Step 5
Try to live for a while separately from both your wife and your mistress. Minimize your phone and internet communication. This will help you focus and understand which one of them is worse for you. Think about whether you can forget the years spent with your wife, give up the habit and well-established life. And also don't forget to decide if it's easy to leave your mistress and stop feeling in love. Keep in mind that you cannot delay solving this problem. If you do not want to part with your wife, but your mistress requires it, then try to get away from the pressure and try to be faithful to your family for a while.
