A child is a small person, a future member of society. Therefore, raising him, you need to be not only a strict mentor, but also an experienced friend. How to learn to be friends with a child?
Instructions
Step 1
To become friends with a child, you need to reckon with his interests, not underestimate his age. Taking care of him like a baby all the time can make him a nurse or a whiner, unable to take care of himself. On the contrary, teach your child to be independent: if he knows how, then let him dress himself, if he has problems in the team, tell me how you would act in his place, if he is capricious, point out to him that he is no longer a baby and can drive away on his own whims of myself.
Step 2
In order for a child to feel friendly feelings towards you, he must consider himself equal to you, feel his importance in the family. If you are deciding how to spend your weekend, let him get involved. If you are choosing an outfit for the holiday, he may well advise you on which dress suits you best. With a child, you can even cry if you feel bad, because he loves you very much and can pity you like no one else.
Step 3
You will become a friend of the child if you sometimes take part in his fun. Children love it when their parents join in their games. If you are walking in the park, why not run a race, because jogging will benefit not only the child, but also you. If you don't know how to brighten up a boring autumn evening, turn off the lights and arrange incendiary dances. Whoever dances more original will receive a candy. You can even come up with costumes for such a competition. Laugh and have fun with your child and they will consider you their best friend.
Step 4
Do not overdo it with instructions, do not shout at the child if he is guilty. Psychologists assure young parents that screaming can frighten a child, but will not have the effect you are seeking. It is much better to talk to your child in private in a calm tone. Explain to him why something cannot be done, tell him how to behave correctly, give examples (albeit invented) of the actions of bad and good children. Do not tell the child how he should be, let him choose how best to act: good or bad.
Step 5
Love your child and always express your tenderness and affection for him. Let him know that you will always find help, support and advice. Only sincerity and benevolence will endear the child, and he will open his soul to you, since he will consider you an older and experienced friend, and not just a strict parent.
