A child who grew up in an orphanage is distinguished by a special behavior and attitude towards others. Foster parents must find a way to approach the new family member. This will take a lot of effort.
Bring back trust
Foster children have a sad experience of betrayal by adults. One of the first tasks of new parents is to win the child's trust. Only by returning faith in people, foster parents will be able to find a common language with the little man.
Before picking up a child, adults need to prepare a room for him. It will be better if it becomes a separate nursery. So the child will have his own personal space. This will allow him to quickly adapt to new conditions. In addition, the child will understand that he was expected in this family. This will be an important factor for the baby.
To gain the child's trust in communication, try to be in a position of “near”. That being said, always keep your promises. This will allow the child to trust you.
In the process of getting to know your child, find out what his hobbies are, what is interesting for him. This will help to equip the nursery. Invite the new owner of the room to take part in organizing the space of the room. Give him the right to choose the color of walls, furniture, curtains. This will show that you trust him with important work. In addition, participating in the renovation will help the child quickly get used to the new family.
Treat your adopted child immediately as if it were your own. This will help relieve tension in your relationship. In addition, this will show that you are serious about your child and earn his trust.
Never cheat on a foster child. Having cheated once, you are unlikely to be able to regain his trust again. Do not become people who have betrayed children again.
Together in life
To become a friend to your adopted baby, communicate with him as with a friend. Delve into his games, meet his friends. Do not show more importance of your affairs than those of children. Make him your first mate.
Try to hold family-wide events together. Let your family have traditional holidays and dates. Preparing for them, conducting, shared memories - all this unites family members, makes them closer.
Involve the child, whenever possible, in solving common problems. In turn, this will help develop his responsibility.
Take an active part in your child's life. Take an interest in his affairs, plans. Express joy at even the smallest success of your pupil, encourage him. This will help the child feel protected and supported.
Support your foster child even as he grows up. He will need your help in the future. In this case, you will remain truly dear people.
