Upbringing is a laborious process at any age of a child. But everyone knows that as soon as children grow up, the process of management and education becomes difficult. In adolescence, a child is in a particularly difficult situation, when he is no longer a child, but not yet an adult. His attempts to make up his mind are often accompanied by conflicts with his parents.
In the process of educating a teenager, first of all, it is necessary to understand that now he needs to be perceived as he wants it. But there is a special subtlety here. Let the teen think that you have fully embraced him in his new demeanor, which changes quite often, but should not guess that you are trying to educate him.
First of all, you must earn his trust. Trust builds not only love, but all relationships between people. For a teenager, it is extremely necessary. At his age, secrets and personal life begin to appear. There is no need to find out all this from him. If the child trusts you, then he himself will tell and share his impressions. There is no need to condemn his actions categorically and harshly. This will push him away from you. Try to give advice.
Even if, after your advice, the teenager does differently and fails, then there is no need to blame and reproach him. The child begins to learn from his mistakes, so calm him down and tell your example from life. Little by little, he will begin to listen to your advice and subconsciously succumb to education.
Often, adolescents themselves do not understand why they need this or that action. They think they know everything and how the world works, but in reality they do not. When he receives the consequences of his actions, he blames everyone but himself. It is necessary to instill in him responsibility for his actions. Talk to him about it, but do not read morals. Try to have a relaxing conversation, and then the child will be frank. Tell him about your experiences as a teenager. Preferably the one where you made mistakes and how you fixed them. Emphasize that your parents have helped you. Then the child will obey you and his upbringing will go more smoothly.
