Even the most loving parents can occasionally raise their voice to their child. Sometimes we all start screaming, realizing in advance that we will regret what we have done later. How will you learn to control your feelings and control yourself?
Why shouldn't you shout at children?
All adolescents perceive the cry in the same way - they are afraid of it. True, everyone has their own reaction to the cry, someone starts crying and withdraws into himself, others begin to hide in another room or just scream in response. We can say that constant screaming traumatizes the child's psyche and destroys warm relationships.
When is screaming useful?
It must be borne in mind that screaming is not always a bad thing. There are times in life when it is simply necessary. For example, there are emergency situations when a child crosses the road and a car is quickly driving towards him. In this case, you need to shout and warn the child about the danger. But raising the tone will only affect the child if you do not yell at him constantly, with a reason and without a reason.
How to deal with irritability?
In order to learn to pull yourself together, you need to ask your child for help. Do not think that he is still a little old, and he does not understand anything. On the contrary, children are very sensitive and perceive the mood of their parents very well. You need to tell your child that it is difficult for you to control your feelings and give him permission to interrupt or stop you. You will see that when the child asks you not to scream and talk calmly, you will stop screaming.
Learn to spend more time with your child and spend more time with him. It is very difficult to maintain a relationship when there is a stressful situation around. Screaming is often caused by overwork, so do what you love, take a bath, or read your favorite book.
If you feel that your nerves fail very often, then only a psychologist can come to the rescue. The specialist will advise you on a medication that will make you feel calmer.
The most important thing to remember is that a child in childhood cannot do anything, but as soon as he grows up, he will stop communicating with you and trust you. Before yelling, think about what this can lead to and stop.
There is one good tool that works flawlessly when a conflict situation has arisen - this is humor. Try not to yell at the child or bark or growl. He will understand that you are unhappy, but he will not be scared and will growl along with you and everything will turn into a comic game.
