Raising children is a responsible and often difficult task. Sometimes fatigue and impatience translate into irritability and harsh words. But it should be remembered that your impulsive behavior can affect the psychological and mental state of the child in the future. Therefore, you need to learn to control your emotions.
Instructions
Step 1
If you feel annoyed and are about to attack the child, give yourself a break - leave the room for a couple of minutes (if possible) or just think about something else. Doing so will give yourself time to cool off, and perhaps realize that you are angry over a trifle.
Step 2
Try to understand what drives the child. Put yourself in his place. It may seem to you that he is doing something to spite you, but this is unlikely to be so. Perhaps he does not know what kind of behavior they want from him, or he wants to get your attention.
Step 3
Instead of yelling and cursing, try to calmly (but confidently) explain to your child what you dislike and why. It is important for the child to clearly see the causal relationship between his behavior and your reactions. Because if he does not understand the reasons for your discontent, you can achieve the opposite result.
Step 4
Remind yourself often of how important it is to be an example for children, because they always copy adults, especially their parents. It largely depends on you how your child will grow up and how he will then raise your grandchildren.
Step 5
Keep a diary. If you were unable to contain yourself and yelled at the child, write down and analyze your emotions. You might be surprised to realize what really made you so angry. This realization may be unexpected. It will also help you stop freaking out over time.
Step 6
Learn to be more mindful of what you do and say. Many act every day as they used to, without even noticing it. When people open the same door every day, they do it automatically. But in this case, the formed reflex is useful, which cannot always be said about human communication. A stereotype of behavior that is effective in one situation can be harmful in another. Be flexible. Try to get a feel for what your child needs at the moment.
Step 7
Get some rest. If you are a young mom (or dad), try to get enough sleep. Periodically distract from raising children, rest, walk, switch to other activities. This will help you look at things more calmly and communicate with your child without unnecessary unpleasant emotions.
Step 8
Try reading psychological literature about parenting. Perhaps you will discover some things that will make this process easier and the child's behavior more understandable for you.
