"I will never forgive you for this!" Familiar words? Have you said that to anyone? Did anyone tell you? Let's see what men do not forgive and what women do, and whether there are common principles on both sides.
What men do not forgive
Let's make a reservation right away. Basically. Usually. As is customary. How it happens most often. But not 100 percent of the time. After all, there are exceptions to any rule. We are looking at the most common average situations.
So…
Treason
Mostly physical. If a partner is still only dreaming of someone else, starts a correspondence with someone, then this does not seem to be considered, she can still be "put back on the right path." But if there was close contact with another … Most men would prefer not to forgive, but to part. Those who "swallow" it will never be the same again. All the time they will return to the last episode.
A woman is psychologically more flexible in this regard.
Invasion of personal space
If you are a lover of "rummaging" in the phone, computer and pockets of your faithful, do it at least secretly. Get caught - there is a great chance that you will not be forgiven for this. It is not necessary that a man will immediately leave after learning that you have climbed into his smartphone, but trust in you will be irretrievably lost.
Of course, it is also difficult for a woman with such behavior to address her (that her husband is watching her and checking in every possible way), but many representatives of the weaker sex may (especially at the beginning of a relationship) accept this as a kind of manifestation of attention to her, care. Wrong, of course, but the fact remains.
Sexual criticism and ridicule, especially penis size
This can give rise to a bunch of complexes in a man. Until his old age, he will not forget the one who, due to her youth and stupidity, casually abandoned her: “You don’t know how to do anything.” Or even affectionately consoled: "Size does not matter."
Success
If the wife gets more than her husband, such a family has little chance of being strong. If from a housewife you turn into a successful business woman, and your spouse has remained at the level of a working factory … too little good. A man himself may not be against a business wife, sometimes even proud of her, but the stereotypes of our society are such that it is the representative of the stronger sex who willy-nilly will have to strain: will his beloved leave him as a symbol of the old life, will he find himself anyone better?
You need a lot of love, fortitude, patience on both sides in order to survive and “forgive” (conventionally, of course, because the woman is not to blame in this case) the success of the second half.
Success often comes with struggle
What women do not forgive
Bad attitude towards your children
Aggression, indifference, empty promises, etc. in relation to themselves, many ladies will endure, but when it comes to a child, even the most naive and not very smart turns on a powerful maternal instinct. It does not matter who the aggressor is: someone else's uncle or own husband, the father of common children. The desire to protect his child comes to the fore, and a man, if he behaved badly (in the woman's opinion) with her baby, will not be forgiven.
Aggression
Hit once - run before it's too late. Unfortunately, not all women follow this postulate. But even those who endure at first will never be able to forgive beatings, rudeness, including moral humiliation. The latter are sometimes perceived even worse than physical ones. For years, a woman can remember with resentment how a loved one laughed at her, humiliated her.
Comparisons with other women
"And my mother cooks borscht better." "But Katya's figure is better, despite the fact that she gave birth to three and nursed herself." “Our neighbor has time to do everything at work - she was even promoted, and her husband is well-groomed and well-fed, and the children are great, and all by herself, without a nanny and assistants.” These and similar statements from men's lips can be the last in life together. A wife, partner, friend can easily answer: “So go to your mother (Katya)”. Or: "Find yourself such a neighbor."
That we do not forgive each other, regardless of gender
Betrayal
What does each of us mean by this concept is the second question. What is treason for one (comparable to treason to the Motherland), for another - an insignificant episode.
But when you are betrayed in your coordinate system, the relationship with this person is over. Even if you try to understand and ask him, he will not be trusted anyway.
This is probably correct. Do not forgive traitors. Do not hold them angry, but do not trust them anymore. And of course, never betray yourself.
