Rebuilding a relationship with a guy who dumped you is much more difficult than starting a new one. If you really want to get it back, you need to think hard about what went wrong, what mistakes you made, work on yourself, and be patient.
Do not hurry
If you’re around your ex-boyfriend all the time, trying to figure out a way to get him back right after he dumped you, it will be difficult for you to do this. You will not be able to soberly assess the situation and answer the question, what went wrong? There is no need to ignore it, but you should not be intrusive with talk about your relationship. Give yourself some time to calm down, distract yourself. This way you will be less biased about the reasons for what happened and will be able to sort out your feelings. In addition, by stopping communication for a while, you may make him think about himself.
What made him leave you?
Before trying to get your boyfriend back, you need to determine what led to your breakup. Introduce yourself to see if you were too capricious, if you gave him enough of your attention, if you gave him reasons to be jealous. Make a list of what could have caused the guy to dump you. This list should only contain what is really under your control.
Change
Once you've identified a list of possible reasons, don't rush to call the guy with an explanation. Only real action will show the guy that you have changed. First and foremost, you need to regain your confidence. Do things that can give you confidence and make you feel better. For example, change your hairstyle, change the style of your clothes. Do everything to feel comfortable again, love yourself.
Do not withdraw into yourself
You won't be able to get your ex-boyfriend back if you forget about all your affairs and constantly yearn for him. The guy should see that you are immersed in your own worries, you continue to actively study or work, you are trying to improve yourself. Spend time with your friends more often, they will help bring a fresh perspective to your relationship.
If you're in the same company, don't think about how to start talking to him. Talk to others so you can move on to talking to each other.
Behave properly in his presence
If you are together visiting mutual friends or just in the same company, try to be attractive and well-mannered. Be elegant, dress the way the situation calls for, but try not to look like a teenager. When talking to people, do not go into lengthy monologues, show that you know how to listen to others. Smile often, show your ex that you are happy. Your ex-boyfriend will definitely notice and appreciate this.
Don't fake your feelings. You should really enjoy communicating with people and spending time with them.
Step into a meeting
After you figure out the reasons for the breakup and work on yourself, you will need to tell him again about your feelings. This may be tricky, but if you want to get the guy back, you need to do it. Choose a place to meet him when he is in a good mood. If you were wrong, ask him for forgiveness, be specific, do not limit yourself to general words. Be honest with him and tell him you want to start over.
In the future, try not to repeat past mistakes, be yourself and do not pretend. At the same time, do not constantly think about how not to harm the relationship again - this way you will not be able to focus on the present.
