In some families, especially where there are small children, parents repeat a hundred times a day: "You can't, don't touch, I forbid, stop immediately!" etc. In doing so, parents do not even think that such a restriction contributes to the delayed development of children, makes them unhappy and insecure. Naturally, certain prohibitions in the family should exist, especially for those actions that can harm the health and life of the child, but we will try to figure out the rest.
A normally developing child must constantly move, run, jump, crawl, etc. Such activity often strains and tires parents, therefore, through prohibitions, they try to calm the children down. Although, according to psychologists, excessive mobility of a child should only please adults.
Children do not yet know about embarrassment, so they actively show their feelings and emotions, cry, rejoice, admire something, and so on. I try to drown out the opportunity in the child to show his feelings, you can alienate the child from yourself, as a result, the child will close and stop trusting his parents.
Now we are not talking about dolls and cars, but about the fact that some kids are happy to play with kitchen utensils, various utensils, household items and even food. You should not take away from the child the object of interest to him, unless, of course, it is a sharp knife or screwdriver, in this way children learn about the world around them.
Sometimes young children also have their own point of view on any situation, and even if you are not very concerned about the opinion of the baby, be sure to listen to him, praise him for the truthfulness and correctness of reasoning, or, conversely, point out mistakes, but in no case ignore … By expressing their thoughts, although at times erroneous, kids learn to think, analyze situations, and also listen to the opinions of adult family members.
Many kids often tell and colorfully describe those situations that obviously do not exist, sometimes they invent non-existent friends or events for themselves. The main thing is to be able to distinguish children's fantasy from lies, which are issued for some specific selfish purpose. If the child fantasizes, take a break from your business for half an hour and plunge into the wonderful world of adventure, this will only contribute to the rapprochement with the child. Before telling the child I forbid, you need to think carefully about the situation and explain your ban in a friendly and calm voice, be sure to say about the reason for the ban.
