The solution to such a problem as parents cheating children is today one of the most difficult tasks to accomplish. Relationships between parents are often so difficult that they, not wanting to initiate the child into them, come to the decision to deceive him.
For example, if a child notices that the parents are upset, sad or angry about something, he comes up to them and asks: “Has something happened?”, And the parents, in order not to injure him or just get rid of him, say “Nothing”. This example is the most common and is a mistake.
It would be much wiser to say, “Thank you for noticing my upset. Everything is fine with me . You can also include a detailed description of the cause of your disorder in your response. There are, of course, some parents who are able to tell their children much more truth than they can understand. However, most prefer not to burden children with adult problems. The most amazing thing is that children can interpret reality in their own way. They are also extremely prone to fear the truthfulness of their parents to them.
All of this is a matter of trust. If a child trusts you, and you deceive him, then he will feel your lie already at the level of intuition. There are many known cases when parents lied to their children. Even the most innocent and kind lie for salvation in this case will not be appropriate.
If the parents finally admit their guilt, the children will be more traumatized than if the parents said everything directly and immediately. Believe me, a child is always interested that parents in a given situation can lie to him. One way or another, when the parents lie, the child learns to lie himself.
Without a doubt, a lot of lies come from parents just because it is simply painful for them to injure their children and jeopardize their fears and anxieties. But remember that protecting children from the truth can really distort reality. Honesty has always been and will be the best policy in raising children.
