We are used to prohibiting children from many things. After all, it is much easier to prohibit than to waste time explaining, talking and helping the child. But if this approach is abused, you can grow up a lack of initiative and intimidation.
1. Be yourself. You dreamed of a quiet and calm child, and he rushes along the ceiling from morning to evening. In your mind, the boys are all militantly brave, and yours modestly sits in a corner and reads books. You dreamed of raising an intellectual, and he feels good in the garage with his father. We'll have to come to terms and accept the child as he is. Otherwise, you run the risk of distorting the fate of your child to please yourself. Each of us is born with a certain set of qualities, and no matter how hard you try to change them, nothing will work. Better to focus on developing what the child likes.
2. Have your opinion. Homo sapiens is intelligent because he can think. Without this quality, it is very difficult to live and achieve success. Do not interfere, but help. Encourage your child to ask questions, provoke doubts, allow them to argue with you even about everyday trifles. Starting with such little things, geniuses are born. Well, or at least thinking people.
3. Show emotions. Probably, only the lazy does not know about this in our time. If you restrain and forbid the expression of emotions, it is fraught with both somatic diseases and psychological disorders. Let the children rejoice from a pure heart and cry their tears. Let them be sincerely surprised at the new and do not hesitate to tell you about their fears. This is very important for growing up healthy.
4. To fantasize. Developed imagination and outright lies are two different things. It surprises me when parents forbid their children to invent new worlds, to imagine the unprecedented. Fantasies give birth to real creative people who know how to find the unusual in the ordinary and create something completely new. Without creativity, the development of all mankind would not exist. Support the children in their fantasies, be genuinely interested in them, and participate in this fun activity together.
5. Help parents. First, we drive the children away from the doormat and vacuum cleaner - they get in the way! - and then we can’t force you to help us with the cleaning. Helping parents, from the very infancy, the child feels important and needed. Don't deprive him of that feeling. And at the same time instill a love of work.
6. Sleep with light. Monsters in the dark are really scary. You'd be surprised if you find out how many adults there are even who are uncomfortable in the dark. Especially when alone. But only adults can control themselves and always know that at any moment no one will forbid them to turn on this light. Children, on the other hand, remain completely alone, one on one with their horrors. And even the closest people do not want to help them.
7. Do not eat the entire portion. Food should be pleasure, not hard labor. Of course, it can be difficult with little girls and especially gourmets: whatever you give them, everything is not tasty. Nevertheless, at least some freedom of choice should remain for children. Otherwise, eating disorders in the future will not be avoided. And in the present it is fraught with serious tantrums.
