Previously, it was not customary to think about how we talk with children, so after listening to our mothers, we automatically give out "crown" phrases one by one. Nevertheless, it would not hurt all of us to know what words can hurt a child, and sometimes cripple the psyche.
Shut up
This phrase a priori belittles the child, makes him understand that he is no one here and there is no way to call him. He convinces that no one will listen to him, you shouldn't even try. Such an attitude towards oneself can spread throughout life, and when an adult already needs to defend his opinion in front of someone, he will most likely not dare to do it.
With your character …
This is a direct road to low self-esteem. The child may not even understand what is wrong with his character, but he already treats himself in advance as someone difficult, absurd, bringing only problems.
I’m for you, and you …
Don't make yourself a victim. After all, you are the parent to your child, not the other way around. Feelings of guilt, mostly unfounded, will not help your child grow into a harmonious personality. And certainly not one of your conflicts will solve.
Do not Cry
Not expressing your feelings will have a negative impact on your children's ability to understand themselves, be aware of and cope with experiences. And it's not far from here to psychosomatics and the inability to take care of yourself and others.
Do not expect praise from me
The feeling of self-doubt and the futility of your activities is what you will achieve with this upbringing. Children need to be shown the way, made it clear where they are doing the right thing, good. It is also important to understand that they deserve approval and gratitude, that their efforts are useful to someone.
You are so nondescript, and there is nothing to see
It is difficult to imagine parents who, with their own hands and so rudely, deprive a child of faith in their attractiveness and uniqueness. Nevertheless, there are such parents who sometimes seem to enjoy raising complexes in their children.
Love your children!
