In any marriage that lasts more than one year, there are ups and downs in the relationship between spouses. Find out what rules of conduct in the family partners need to follow so that life together will bring only love and happiness for many years to come.
Instructions
Step 1
In our society, it is believed that the more married people live together, the less interests they have in common. And banalities such as habit, children and the inability to disperse to different apartments help not to terminate the marriage agreement. After a couple of years of living together, it seems to the spouses that they know any thoughts of each other, and there is no need to talk about it.
Step 2
Most often, it is this view of things that leads to a lack of mutual understanding and the accumulation of mutual grievances. Relationships in marriage are largely preserved thanks to the ignorance of the partner. It is necessary, first of all, to be interested in his affairs and hobbies, and not to build a wall of silence with the thought: "I already know everything, but his hobby is not interesting to me."
Step 3
You need to listen to your soul mate every day, offering a solution to the problem that has arisen. But, more often than not, there are a lot of excuses for indifference: lack of time, fatigue, work, household chores, children.
Step 4
Slowly but surely destroying a marriage, few people think before divorce about what could have been done during their life together. And it is not difficult to maintain a marriage relationship, it is enough just to follow some rules.
Step 5
You need to love without expecting anything in return. This means that love and support should be constant, even if the spouse at some point cannot respond in kind, without reproaches and expectations.
Step 6
You have to convince yourself that "no one owes anything." Many spouses believe that the partner has no moral right to refuse the fulfillment of desires. But this is not so, because everyone has the right to their desires and opinions, which, sometimes, do not correspond to the thoughts of their spouse.
Step 7
Do not be offended. Keeping resentment in the heart is, at least, unconstructive. You need to tell your spouse how he offended, and ask him not to do this anymore. If one spouse offended the other, you need to immediately apologize, and not expect that it will somehow be forgotten over time.
Step 8
Never criticize each other. Do not indulge yourself with the thought that you are criticizing with good intentions. Criticism is just an attempt to prove to another, less fortunate spouse his own opinion and superiority. In addition, it makes absolutely no sense to express with irritation what could have been done if, all the same, nothing had already been changed.
Step 9
And the last thing. When getting married, remember that any relationship is a job that requires patience, attention, love and understanding. It is foolish to complain about the ruined past years and not make an effort to change the situation. The only way to maintain a relationship is to love each other.
