Each of us is faced with the problem of self-defense from an early age, because there is always someone who is weak, and there is someone who uses his strength. In kindergarten, all this is largely harmless: children's aggression is manifested in an impulsive desire to bite someone, push, pick up a toy. But when a grown-up child goes to school, here one has to deal with a more dangerous form of child aggression, when children purposefully begin to harass someone they did not like. That is why it is important to teach to stand up for yourself in preschool age.
Instructions
Step 1
If you find out that your child is being bullied at school, then it is imperative to protect him. Of course, this protection should not be reduced to a "swing of rights", but leaving the child to deal with his problems on his own is, at least, a betrayal. After all, adults do not always solve their problems with offenders themselves. We involve law enforcement agencies for this - we go to the police or to the court.
Step 2
Often the solution to the child's problem is to remove him from the aggressive environment. It is quite possible that an unhealthy order really reigns in the educational institution where your child is. Then the only option in this case is to transfer him to another school or kindergarten.
Step 3
If the child has problems everywhere, then you should think about whether he himself is becoming the cause of his own troubles. Perhaps he just provokes the fighters himself. It is the "splinters" that first bully up and then run to complain. In this case, you need to popularly explain to your son or daughter that you need to learn to get along with those who surround him / her: you do not need to envy, sneer, take offense, demand the fulfillment of your whims. On the contrary, it is worth treating others with kindness.
Step 4
There are also reverse situations. If you often notice that a child willingly shares his toys with other babies, if he plays with only one toy in the sandbox, and everyone else was taken from him, do not rush to demand that he take his toys from the offenders. In fact, such a child's behavior suggests that, firstly, he grows up in a friendly family, which is good in itself, and secondly, your baby is a little sage, because we cannot always see how subtle our children can calculate the strategy of their behavior. In a word, what we consider to be aggression towards a child does not always offend him, which means that it is not worth interfering in such cases and making the baby stand up for himself.
Step 5
If you see that it constantly manifests itself in relation to your peacefully playing child, then support him and teach him to show that such behavior is not very pleasant to him. So, having said a couple of times to the aggressor, “We have no one pushing each other, this is very ugly. Don't play with those who fight,”you will notice that your child will use these phrases. Usually, when aggressive children are excluded from the game, they gradually stop showing aggression. Teach your child to be flexible: show how to get play safe.
Step 6
If there is no way to calm the aggressor, show an easy but effective way to calm him down physically: pinch. Just make it clear to your kid that this is a last resort.
Step 7
And in conclusion, a few more tips:
- Don't suggest that fighting is definitely a bad thing. The child does not want to be bad, which means that he will always lose in a fight;
- Don't control it completely. If you decide all conflicts for him, then he will never learn to stand up for himself;
- Give your child the opportunity to interact with many children. Being in different children's groups, he will quickly learn to resolve conflicts;
- Foster self-confidence in the child, praise him more often, treat him like an adult;
- Play scenes with him, in which different conflicting parties are involved;
- Teach him to protect the weaker. Often, courage appears precisely in the struggle for someone, and not for oneself;
- Help him learn some self-defense methods, and children's sports sections will help you with this.
