"To beat or not to beat?" - this is how a well-known question can be paraphrased when discussing the upbringing of children. Indeed, any sane person understands that hitting the weak and defenseless, to put it mildly, is not good. And a small child is precisely weak and defenseless. On the other hand, people's nerves are not iron, and children sometimes, by their behavior, disobedience, can infuriate even a saint.
Instructions
Step 1
Try to convince yourself: a small child in the overwhelming majority of cases behaves badly, violates your inhibitions, not because he specifically wants to annoy you. It is thanks to their disobedience, which pushes them to learn about the world, that babies develop. This is genetically inherent in their nature, and it is simply pointless to be angry with them. You might as well be angry with nature for the changing seasons, for example. Therefore, never physically punish a child who cannot even understand why he was spanked. You only needlessly offend him.
Step 2
If the child is at an age when he is already able to understand the meaning of prohibitions and requirements, establish clear and precise boundaries of what is allowed and what is not. And, of course, set an example for him in everything. If, say, parents demand that a child maintain order in his room, clean up scattered toys, and their own belongings are scattered about anywhere, is it worth getting angry with the baby for stubborn disobedience? Moreover, to spank. Think about it.
Step 3
Let's say you have good reason to be angry with your child. Even if he was really guilty. But think: his behavior is a direct consequence of your upbringing. Since he did this, it means that you missed something, overlooked somewhere.
Step 4
Try to explain to your child why you are unhappy with their behavior. Say that you continue to love him as before, but he greatly upset, upset you. Your task: to make him realize that he did wrong. The educational effect of this will be much greater than the spanking.
Step 5
If you still could not resist and spanked the child, be sure to tell him, when he calms down, that you did not want to do this, you were forced to do this by his bad behavior. The kid should not think that you have stopped loving him.
