Every decent wife cares about the comfort of her spouse. In order not to point a finger at the sky, let's look at the most common needs of men and how they can be met.
Every person, regardless of gender and age, needs understanding. Sometimes people understand each other perfectly, but this does not happen immediately. Do not stop listening to your man, take an interest in him and his life. Try to look at different situations not only from your own, but also from his bell tower. If he is tired, do not demand help from him and do not burden him with unnecessary deeds and requests. If he is annoyed, leave him alone and do not start to sort things out. If he shares his joy, keep him in good spirits and do not overshadow everyday problems. To better understand men, read a good book on male psychology written by men themselves.
Take care of his self-esteem. Praise something for which to praise, admire its merits and do not nag it for its shortcomings. Just don’t lie and don’t bend the soul. This is very noticeable. If you can't find reasons for sincere praise, you have chosen the wrong man. And in no case humiliate him in the circle of friends and strangers. This really hurts men's self-esteem, and it does not honor you either.
Take care of your self-esteem. Not everything is in the hands of your husband. Your mood, your behavior and your appearance are subject only to you. Try to be greeted by a graceful, well-groomed kitty, loving and affectionate, and not a driven horse, angry with the whole world.
Of course, a man needs good sex. Here you need liberation, openness to experimentation and a sense of proportion. The main thing is not to be a log and follow the feedback. If the nurse's costumes and pink handcuffs do not appeal to your spouse, then you should not impose a masquerade ball on him. Talk about what you want, what he wants, discuss your desires and fantasies.
Nobody canceled a delicious dinner and order in the house. Everyone likes it. Prepare your own specialties and don't forget about cleaning the apartment, but don't drive it all into fanaticism. If you have the energy and time for a dish that is cooked for three hours - please, if you have no time to perform culinary feats, limit yourself to something faster. Fly lady tips for young housewives will help you save time and energy and stay in good spirits.
Eating and sleeping is an essential need for everyone, but you also want to talk. Become a loyal friend and good conversationalist. To keep the conversation going, always take an interest in your loved one’s work and hobbies. It's even better if you share each other's hobbies. Don't laugh at the fact that your husband can spend hours looking at his stamp collection or sawing with a jigsaw. You don't like it when he sneers at your endless telephone conversations with your best friend. Better ask him to tell you what's what. Maybe you will like it.
Accept the man for who he is, and do not make plans for a general overhaul. In family life, there are many little things that you can put up with due to the merits of your spouse. We are all imperfect. You can agree on something, somewhere it is better to remain silent, to close your eyes to something. Love your husband and listen to your intuition. She will tell you what exactly he wants.
