It is not uncommon for young people, having lived together for a couple of years, to understand that they are not suitable for each other. Divorce is not condemned as much as it used to be. And the second marriage is gradually becoming the norm of our time.
Marrying someone who has already had a family history is not an easy step for many women. Realizing that your beloved man has already lived with another woman, woke up in the morning with her, ran a joint household - this is very difficult for most girls. Often, the second wife thinks that the husband is comparing her to the first wife or is still remembering his previous marriage. It is important to understand here why the man broke up with his first wife, and which of them was the first to announce the divorce.
Don't be jealous if your husband hangs out with his ex-wife. Of course, the woman with whom he lived for a long time cannot become a stranger to him. But now he is with you, and there is no point in worrying.
The classic situation is early marriage. Usually everything starts like in a movie - bright meetings, passion, emotions … Young people think that they are made for each other. Dating follows one after another, and it all ends with a solemn marriage proposal. However, when faced with everyday problems, young spouses are often disappointed in each other and understand that they are in a hurry. Psychologists say that full psychological maturity occurs at the age of about 25 years. And many young people, with their inherent maximalism, are ready to get married at the age of 17-19. But family relationships are not only a violent passion. It is also about common goals in life, similar interests, support and protection. Having lost the pink glasses of love, the newly-made spouses are not ready for everyday problems and decide to break up. If your man has had such a marriage, you're in luck. Most likely, he no longer has any feelings for his first wife, and he chose you because he felt a kindred spirit in you.
Some second wives are good friends with their husband's first spouses. From her you can learn a lot of secrets about your beloved man.
Another popular situation is marriage due to an unplanned pregnancy. In youth, this happens often. A guy and a girl are dating, but they don't make any plans for each other. But through negligence, the girl becomes pregnant, and the young man has to marry her. Such marriages are the most fragile, so most of them end in divorce. Even a child cannot keep two completely different people together, between whom there are no strong feelings. If your husband's first marriage falls into this category, he probably won't feel love or longing for his ex-wife either. However, you will have to befriend your husband's child. You should not be jealous of the baby, because he is a part of your loved one and also deserves your love.
The third option is your husband's painful separation from his first wife. This is the most difficult situation. Perhaps the first spouse left your loved one or cheated on him, but he could not forgive. Here you need to show patience and feminine wisdom. If a man has decided to marry a second time, it means that he is confident in you. Therefore, you should not make scandals for him and be jealous of his first wife. Instead, try to be affectionate and caring, and make sure you never betray him. A man will appreciate your attitude, and you will show him an angel against the background of your former wife. Well, after that, pleasant gifts, surprises and compliments will not keep you waiting.
