Do you think that in childhood your daughter was a more obedient and open child, she could tell about her secrets, fears, dreams, but today something has changed? If so, the first step in your new relationship is building contact.
The daughter has become more secretive, less talkative, no longer trusts you with her secrets. And in general, the process of interaction with my daughter turned from joyful and easy to some kind of incomprehensible and somewhat painful.
If all of these situations are familiar to you firsthand, then most likely you are the parent of a teenage girl. But do not worry, everything can be adjusted, let's first try to understand the reasons for this behavior.
Desire for independence
It is only natural that as she grows older, your daughter wants to be less dependent on matters concerning her life. You need to understand that this is an important stage in a child's life, right now she is developing such qualities as responsibility (for herself, for her life) and independence.
But in this situation there are pitfalls: on the one hand, the child's excessive desire for independence, which can lead to the loss of any connection between you and your daughter; on the other hand, strict control of the child's life by the parents, which can provoke serious conflicts and quarrels.
Formation of abstract thinking
At this age, the processes of human cognitive improvement continue to occur. In other words: if earlier your daughter could only think in concrete terms, for example, when the word justice was associated with her equally divided chocolate bar, now she is learning to understand that justice does not always mean equality, and that life is much more complicated than it seemed before.
With the help of a new way of thinking, your daughter is revising all her past views on things and life in general, therefore, it is possible that your vision and perception of the world will also be questioned.
How can you improve your relationship with your daughter?
Communicate. Take an interest in your daughter's life, but not from the perspective of a parent, but from the perspective of an adult friend who can give good advice, since he has more experience. To do this, use the time when you are doing something together in a relaxed friendly atmosphere.
Stop at the point. It is important to understand that your daughter perceives the words you say, but does not always show it. Therefore, learn to express your opinion, to indicate your position on a particular issue, but not to impose an algorithm of actions on your daughter. What she will decide for herself and at the same time will definitely remember what you told her.
Listen. When your daughter talks about something, expresses her opinion - do not interrupt her. So she can understand that you care about what is bothering her. You, in turn, thus learn more about her life.
Control yourself. Remember that teens are very impulsive, and if you take every word or act seriously, it will be almost impossible to build relationships.
