Conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can poison the lives not only of both of them, but also of all those close to them. Mutual efforts are required to establish a friendly relationship, even if each of the women is sure: the truth is on her side.
Instructions
Step 1
The woman who became your son's wife most likely claims to be the main place in his heart. Try not to criticize your daughter-in-law. From the point of view of the mother-in-law, neutral remarks can be assessed by a young inexperienced girl as an attempt on her authority. If it seems to you that she is not very successful in managing the household, it is better not to impose your opinion on her, but to delicately ask: “Have you tried this method? Maybe it will be more convenient?"
Step 2
If you live together, do not try to take on all the household chores or, on the contrary, shift them to your daughter-in-law. Agree on the division of duties and try to keep the agreement. Do not impose household help on your daughter-in-law: a suspicious girl may think that you are questioning her ability as a housewife. We'll have to firmly understand that the room in which the son's family lives is its legal territory. Do not enter them without knocking, do not put things in order there without a special request.
Step 3
Do not remember your son's former girlfriends in the presence of your daughter-in-law, unless in a positive sense for her: "My son made the best choice." Do not discuss the shortcomings of a new relative with other people - for sure she will find out about these gossips. Don't insult her family. If problems arise in relations with matchmakers, it is better to solve them as kindly as possible.
Step 4
If you think that the daughter-in-law is wrong in the quarrels between the son and the wife, keep neutrality. Otherwise, when the young people make it up, you will have a reputation as an enemy of the family and an incitement to hatred. If you think that your son is wrong, support your daughter-in-law.
Step 5
Sometimes, despite all the efforts, it is impossible to improve relations with the son's wife. The girl considers her mother-in-law an enemy who encroaches on her husband's love and family budget, or demands that she become a lifelong sponsor of a young family. In this case, it would be wiser to abandon the attempts to make friends with the daughter-in-law. Communicate with your son, and just be polite with his wife. Do not let yourself be used, you deserve the right to a quiet life and help from your children.
