Cheating on a loved one creates a crack in the relationship, which, after some time, can turn into a huge chasm that forever divided you and him. However, you can try to find the strength to overcome the mistake that has occurred and cement the resulting gap.
Instructions
Step 1
Calm down and analyze what happened without strong emotions, look at the situation from the outside. If they cheated on you, think about why it happened, is there any share of your fault in this? Perhaps you did not pay enough attention to your other half, were you rude, unfair, cruel to him or her? Maybe you did not show enough respect or love, which pushed your husband or wife to take such a step? Perhaps cheating is revenge on you for something or a cry for help, a sign of psychological problems, mental distress of your partner? Remember that any action has certain reasons, so do not rush to hang labels on the person offending in front of you.
Step 2
Calmly talk to your loved one who has cheated on you. If you realize that this situation is also your fault, tell him about it. Apologize for spending too little time with your partner, for example, and promise that you will behave differently from now on. Forgive him from the bottom of your heart, it will be difficult for you to restore normal relations with hidden anger.
Step 3
After finding out the reasons for what happened, ask your husband or wife if he (she) sees further prospects for the development of your relationship? If your other half is interested in rebuilding the relationship, move on to further steps to strengthen the marriage.
Step 4
Do not return to treason in conversations, refrain from reproaches, do not discuss or condemn this act with other people, you have forgiven your loved one. You should not strengthen control over him, do not seek to limit his freedom, your relationship, as before, should be built on complete trust and mutual respect. Yes, it is difficult, but otherwise you will never get rid of the shadow of treason over your marriage. Adjust your behavior as well, if it was the reason for cheating.
Step 5
If you have changed, wait until the emotions of your partner subside, try to calmly talk with him, explain the reasons for your betrayal. Do not lie and do not try to shift the blame on others - you have drunk, seduced, etc., it is better to admit your own mistakes and promise not to allow them in the future. Say that you learned a valuable lesson from this situation, that you understood how you value your relationship. Of course, all of this is only relevant if you really want to save the marriage.
Step 6
Do not try every day to atone for your guilt with armfuls of flowers and expensive gifts, do not assume the role of the guilty person, do not do what was not typical of you before. So you will constantly remind your loved one of your betrayal and cause him only irritation and distrust. Behave naturally: open genuine feelings, warm words without flattery and lies, your honesty and loyalty to your family - all this will be surely appreciated.
Step 7
If you feel that you do not love your spouse, honestly tell him or her about it. Trying to restore relationships for the sake of maintaining generally accepted decency, continuing to lie and hypocrites, you will become even more confused, and your marriage will sooner or later collapse irrevocably.
