In relationships between people, not everything goes smoothly. Even the closest friends or the most loving and caring spouses can quarrel. Moreover, as often happens in such situations, the conflict can flare up because of the most complete trifle, not even worth mentioning. In the heat of a quarrel, people sometimes tell each other a lot of very offensive and unfair things. How to fix the consequences of a rash act?
Instructions
Step 1
Of course, it's a pity if there is a family discord. But, as the philosopher said: "Even a genius can make a mistake, but only a fool persists, not admitting his mistakes." In other words, if it has already come to a quarrel, then you need to be able to make peace.
Step 2
Try not to postpone reconciliation until later. Believe me, the more time passes after the quarrel, the more difficult it will be for you to return the old relationship. As soon as the first fuse has passed, replaced by confusion and bewilderment, especially if remorse has begun, feel free to take the initiative into your own hands. Without waiting for the other side to take the first step, even if you think that all the blame for what happened lies with her.
Step 3
Remember: it rarely happens that one participant in a quarrel is a real angel, and the other is a fiend. As a rule, both sides are to blame for the conflict. Popular wisdom says: "the first step towards reconciliation is made by the one who is smarter." Draw your own conclusions.
Step 4
Analyze, preferably objectively and impartially, the cause of the conflict. If you yourself cannot do this, offer the “enemy” something like this: “Let's calmly figure out why everything happened and how to avoid it in the future. I am very sorry that we had a fight, and I don’t want to make the same mistakes anymore.” It is difficult to refuse such an offer. After all, your opponent probably himself regrets what happened, but here you seem to admit that you are wrong, albeit in a somewhat "neutral" form, make it clear that you value your relationship and do not want to put it at risk.
Step 5
Women should in every possible way refrain from such a powerful "weapon" as tears. Yes, the sight of a bitterly crying friend will embarrass any normal man, awaken in him a sense of pity and guilt. On the one hand, this can contribute to reconciliation. On the other hand, the man will still experience strong moral discomfort, because he gave in, succumbing to the "dishonest" reception. In addition, if you resort to this method more than once, he will begin to annoy your partner or he will simply stop paying attention to him.
Step 6
An intelligent person learns from the mistakes of others; a fool does not even learn from his own. After the reconciliation has taken place, do not expose your relationship to new tests.
