Love can be a complex and ambiguous feeling. And it manifests itself in different ways. In some cases, a person instantly realizes that his destiny is in front of him, while in others he may be torn between two fires for several years.
Love is a voluminous, multifaceted feeling. When a woman loves a man, she may completely ignore the rest of the opposite sex, not consider them as potential partners. Her entire inner world revolves around the one to whom she gave her heart. You can love several people at the same time, but in different ways: as a friend, as a mother, as an idol, as a child. You can't really love two men.
If a woman thinks that she has the strongest feelings for two at the same time, most likely, she does not love either of them. In a situation where she feels true affection for at least one of the applicants, the question of some lasting feelings for another will not arise. Psychologists have another point of view: when it seems that you love two men, you may have strong feelings for someone you met later. If a woman really loved the first man, she would not fall in love with a new guy. However, feeling attached to two at once can be an illusion. There are several reasons for this.
The acuity of the senses
Sometimes a woman thinks that she, having love for one man, becomes partial to the second. This happens because passion, interest, attraction was initially taken as a strong, lasting feeling. Over time, these emotions can pass. This is especially true for relationships that they do not consider necessary to work on. In a couple, you need to strengthen feelings, discover new virtues in each other, get to know your partner better. Then true attachment appears.
If you do not advance in a relationship or connect life with the wrong man, passion and falling in love will quickly pass. When the union does not bring joy, but becomes only a source of anxiety, jealousy, disappointment, it is doomed. In such situations, a woman can meet a new object of passion. She again thinks that this is love.
So, without understanding the feelings of the first partner, she begins a new relationship and believes that she loves two. In fact, she is struggling with a craving for novelty and some kind of habit. In the first man she is more confident, in the second she is afraid of the unknown. On the other hand, she is already somewhat disappointed in her current partner, and the acuity of fresh feelings for a new lover creates the illusion of strength of feelings for him.
Different qualities
Sometimes a woman sees different qualities in two men, and therefore it seems to her that she loves both of them. The lady singles out in each of them the virtues that should be present in the male ideal, which could have developed for her subconsciously. For example, the first man is kind, but the second is a real intellectual. One chosen one values family and relationships, and for another, a healthy lifestyle comes first. In such a situation, you need to realize what you expect from a partner, and look for a whole person with a full set of merits, and not highlight features that are dear to your heart in different men.
There are situations when in two guys a girl appreciates the opposite qualities or those character traits that are usually mutually exclusive and cannot get along in one person. It may be a matter of a fickle female nature. Also, the reason for this may lie in the girl's infantilism. She doesn't know what she really wants and is just looking for variety. Naturally, there can be no talk of true love here. Or maybe she does not realize how this or that quality of character is revealed in different life situations. Hussarship can impress during the candy-bouquet period, but not in family life.
Relationship dissatisfaction
A woman may feel like she fell in love with a second man if there is something she seriously dislikes in the current relationship. When there are such problems in a couple, there are three ways to solve them. First: a woman to moderate her demands in relation to her partner, give him the right to make mistakes and understand that there are no ideal people. Second: discuss the reason for the dissatisfaction with the man and ask him to change his behavior. Third: break up.
If the last point is easier for you than the rest, chances are you don't love your boyfriend. And at the same time, there are no guarantees that the girl definitely loves the new boyfriend. Firstly, for love, usually some period must pass during which the couple gets to know each other better. Only love or passion can instantly flare up. The sooner feelings arose, the more short-lived their life can be. Secondly, before plunging into a new relationship, you should first deal with the old ones, and then finally close this topic.
