You should not ask a man about those things that run counter to his personal attitudes. It is advisable to give up attempts to deprive him of his personal space, career, hobbies and meetings with friends.
Any relationship involves many compromises. Very often you have to agree with what is difficult for you to accept. But sometimes the partner goes overboard, thinking that for the sake of love, a person must step over himself. Sometimes women insist on things that men simply cannot refuse. There are a few things you shouldn't ask your companion about.
Pay no attention to other women
Representatives of the stronger sex will look at other girls, even if their wife is nearby. The male body is designed in such a way that it cannot ignore the girl who radiates female charm. If you explain from the point of view of physiology, then not a single lady in whom you can feel the "female" will be left unattended. If a young man stops seeing girls next to him, this indicates deviations.
Throughout the entire existence of mankind, the main purpose of a man has been the continuation of the race, the "fertilization of females." Only with time did certain moral norms begin to be imposed.
Give up your hobbies, career
From the point of view of psychology, a girl should support the goals of the young man, his desire to achieve something. Men, contrary to common opinion, often have low self-esteem, are insecure. If you want them to treat you with respect, to show their strengths, motivate them, let's understand that you will always support.
Irina Khakamada says that biologically men are arranged in such a way that love and relationships are in third place for them. The first two are for them self-realization and hobbies.
Have the same interests as yours
Each person has the right to their own personal space around them. It consists of habits, hobbies that make life around us more comfortable. Trying to convince a young person to abandon his personal interests, you invade his personal space.
If you define your personal space in advance, before starting a serious relationship, then you can give each other much more. The ability to pursue your interests allows you to:
- more efficiently restore energy;
- relax;
- to see familiar things from the other side.
People who are trying to find individuality in the chosen one have more opportunities to maintain good relationships, build a strong family. If personal space is not respected, conflicts and negative emotions appear.
Don't go out with your friends
Everyone has the right to live outside of relationships, so you shouldn't ask him to forget about his friends. If a girl stops seeing her friends for the sake of her husband, this is her problem to a greater extent. Very often inertia is the reason for the constant pastime in the company of friends. With her, the behavior continues, which was before marriage.
Thanks to communication with friends, a person can get warmth and comfort, if this is not the case in family relationships. Studies show that when a woman limits her male social circle, her partner becomes passive, irritable, and angry. In addition, extreme measures for avoiding difficult situations may appear, for example, excessive addiction to alcohol and computer games.
Replace your girlfriend
If a couple has a good and warm relationship, then very often many topics are raised without fear. However, there are some things that a young man will not help you figure out. You need to appreciate the desire to help you, but you shouldn't expect a man to understand how another woman does.
Men have one more feature, they act according to the proverb "Listen to a woman and do the opposite."This usually happens if the companion does not fulfill her roles, takes on male functions, becomes a competitor.
In conclusion, we note that you should not ask your man to make a choice between you and his mother. On the one hand, there is a high probability that it will not be done in your favor, on the other hand, your man will definitely remember this, and what this will lead to in the future is unknown.
Psychologists do not recommend asking a representative of the stronger sex to change and be different. If it is difficult to do this, often remember why you fell in love with a young man. It is possible that the man is satisfied with his behavior, he does not see any problems in him. Over-imposing your vision will lead to conflicts.
