Relationships with parents are rarely cloudless - communication between different generations of the same family is often clouded by quarrels, resentments or mutual claims. And the question of how to improve relations with mom sooner or later becomes relevant for almost all young people.
Instructions
Step 1
The reasons for conflicts with parents are different - therefore, a “universal recipe” is hardly possible. But, if we talk about the relationship between children and their mothers, then very often the essence of the conflict boils down to the fact that for many mothers “to love your child” means “to take care of him”. And mother, deep down in her soul, refuses to understand that her son or daughter has already grown up, and seeks to continue to take care of and control her grown babies, not paying attention to their desperate resistance.
Step 2
If you live with your parents, the first recommendation is to find a separate home. Even if it is temporary, for several months. At some point in your relationship with your parents, it’s better to love each other at a distance: it will help you and your mom know that you’ve really grown up. And having your own space, where you are the host and your mother is the guest, will help you to be more calm about the problems of relationships with your parents.
Step 3
Systematically consult with your mother "on trifles": ask for advice, be interested in some "household tricks" and so on. You don't have to always follow mom's advice. In this case, your main task is to make your mother feel useful for her own child. If she really needs to teach the child about life, it will be better if you choose the topics for these "lessons" yourself. Better let mom explain how to fry potatoes until crisp, and not how to behave with members of the opposite sex.
Step 4
Take care of your mom: call, find out how she is feeling, buy her any little things she needs in the household while shopping, make regular visits. This will help the mother feel that her son or daughter loves her and thinks about her. And the fact that not only she cares about you, but you about her, will help her feel that you have become an adult. And this can dramatically change your relationship - for the better.
