The first sexual experience is an important and exciting event. As a rule, the impressions of the first partner are remembered for a lifetime. In order not to destroy the charm of the moment, do not rush. The origin of sensuality in guys and girls occurs in different ways, so sex requires not only physical desire, but also deeper feelings: respect, care, love, reverent attitude towards a partner.
According to gynecologists and sexologists, the optimal age for the onset of sexual activity is considered to be the period of 18-20 years. In early adolescence, the urge to have sex is elementary curiosity and a desire to become an adult as soon as possible, rather than a desire to experience sensual pleasure. Haste and drinking for courage is a direct path to frustration and impaired libido (sex drive).
The sexual impression is especially important for girls, because during the first intercourse, defloration occurs - a rupture of the hymen, which protects the vagina from various infections. The severity of pain in this case depends on the sensitivity threshold of the girl and the number of nerve endings in her hymen. The presence of blood determines the equipment of the hymen with blood vessels.
In guys, the loss of virginity does not have pronounced sensations and is not accompanied by tissue rupture. However, the strength of the erection, long wait and nervousness can lead to rapid ejaculation. Or, conversely, cause a sharp weakening of sexual desire.
As a psychological relief, the sight of a fire in the fireplace or the sound of the ocean is ideal. If there is no fireplace, use scented candles, and the sound of the ocean is on many of nature's melody CDs.
A properly created atmosphere is essential. Do not be ashamed of your inexperience. The twilight of the evening and a romantic dinner, smoothly turning into foreplay, will help you relax and tune in to the right mood. Natural aphrodisiacs such as seafood (squid and mussels) can be used for dinner to raise your cravings. A glass of red wine improves blood flow, but you shouldn't get too carried away with alcohol.
Relaxing massage, gentle kisses and mutual caresses can help reduce anxiety and fear of the unknown. Say as many sweet words to each other as possible for support.
To reduce pain when a girl's hymen is torn, it is important for both partners to find a comfortable sexual position. The most gentle option is considered to be a pose in which the girl sits on her side with her legs slightly bent at the knees, with her back to her partner.
Before the introduction of the penis, it is necessary to gently insert a wet index finger into the vagina to check the partner's readiness for copulation. The vagina should be hot and wet.
The classic version is also suitable, when the girl lies on her back with her legs apart. The knees should be bent, and a small pillow or roller should be placed under the buttocks. In the classic position, the opening of the vagina is considered the most complete. The muscles of the vagina relax, the hymen sags slightly, which allows you to insert the penis gently and without strong pressure.
For most women, the clitoris, a small tubercle at the base of the labia majora (between their folds), is the main lever of arousal. Gentle stroking of the tissues around the clitoris with your fingers and oral sex will relax the girl and prepare her for the penetration of the penis. It is not recommended to insist on oral sex if one of the partners is not ready or shy.
One should not expect an enchanting orgasm and insane pleasure from the first sexual experience. You should not be focused on results, but on action. Sexual intercourse should be a kind of acquaintance between two bodies. Patiently and tenderly, explore possible paths to orgasm in the future.
Since no one is immune from pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections, you should take care of safety. A condom is not always convenient, as it reduces the severity of sensations. Talk to your gynecologist about the different types of contraception. In addition to condoms, there are special gels and lubricants that have a spermicidal and bactericidal effect.
