Mom is the closest person. But sometimes it turns out that over the years the thread that connected you is lost. And you can catch yourself thinking that the relationship with your mother is no longer the same as it was before, there is now an abyss between you, consisting of misunderstandings and mutual claims. Relationships can be improved by putting in some effort and understanding.
Instructions
Step 1
You often hear obsessive advice from your mother on how and what to do, and because of this you quarrel. Try to understand your mother's motives first. Subconsciously, she wants you to live just like her, because she has already passed this path and, they say, knows how best. Giving one or another advice, she seems to relieve herself of anxiety for you.
Step 2
In order not to spoil the relationship, try to just agree with her, and do as you see fit. If earlier you allowed yourself to break into a scream, then use a different tactic. Gentleness and agreement are the best you can choose.
Step 3
If you periodically have to hear that you are absolutely not interested in either the life or health of your own mother, then your mother most likely likes to present herself as a victim. Understand that deep down she is afraid of loneliness, doubts herself and her own importance for children.
Step 4
Try to convince your mom that you love and need her, show her attention. If you live separately, call first, try in every possible way to be interested in what she lives. After all, you must agree that a daily, even five-minute conversation on the phone about how she is doing will defuse the situation, and also help to improve relations.
Step 5
When talking on the phone with you, the mother talks about something distant and at the same time is absolutely not interested in what is happening in her child's life. Think, most likely, earlier you wanted to show her your complete independence, to build a separate world in which mom has no place. To rebuild the relationship, show your mother that her opinion means something to you. Start asking her for advice, ask for help in certain matters.
Step 6
Understand that after you grow up, parents need your love just as you needed parental love as a child. Live your life, but do not forget about those who gave it to you.
