Modern trends are such that the value of relationships between people is falling exponentially. There is a direct link between relationships and the degree of their availability. The more channels we have for communication, the less we value it. Half a century ago, treason, and even more so, divorce, was considered something out of the ordinary. Now people meet and part in real life as easily as in the vastness of the World Wide Web. And they rarely think about how the other person is. The phrase "to leave beautifully" turns into archaism.
Necessary
The guy and the desire to leave him
Instructions
Step 1
Having decided to break up with your boyfriend, you probably still think about what is better if there is no grandiose quarrel, if everything is calm and beautiful. It is important for a woman to look spectacular in any situation, and a breakup is no exception. But in fact, more often than not, it all ends with a bonal quarrel and mutual insults.
What not to do:
Step 2
Try to finally tell each other everything that hurts. This is unlikely to fix the situation, but it will add negativity great. It is these conversations that turn a civilized divorce into a family quarrel.
Step 3
Try to humiliate him by talking about your connections, both past and present. If you are the initiator of the breakup, then it should already be clear to him that you have a reason. Never forget that in this situation, he is the injured party.
Step 4
Offer to openly remain friends. For some reason, it seems to many that this will soften the blow, but in fact, men are very offended by such an offer. If everything goes smoothly, you will be able to communicate in the future.
Step 5
Don't try to give him back the gifts he gave you. This is not only offensive to him, but also humiliates you. Gifts are part of your life together or your relationship, they should stay with you as a memory. You can get rid of them, but not in his presence.
Step 6
What do we have to do:
Create a very calm, warm environment for the upcoming conversation, prepare what your boyfriend loves most. It is necessary to create an aura of trust and mutual understanding.
Step 7
The conversation should not start from afar, as we would like, but with the last phrase: "I think we'd better leave." Then act according to the situation. There are several options here: either he will start asking questions, or he will shut up, or he will try to insult you, accuse you, get up and leave. In any case, it was you in this situation who looked adult and reasonable. In the future, you will not blame yourself for anything.
Step 8
Be sure to say, if it is, of course, possible, that you were happy with him, that you will always remember the good things that you experienced together.
