When a new person appears in the family, this is a rather stressful situation, especially if this new person is a stepfather. If the child is very small, then, as a rule, problems do not arise, since growing up, he simply will not remember the time when his stepfather was not with him. It will be more difficult with children of a conscious age. It is even more difficult with those who initially had a happy family consisting of mom and dad, and then their parents broke up and a stranger came to replace their beloved dad. Naturally, the child will not accept him with open arms. It is very difficult for a mother to observe how two people close to her are in conflict, so it is important to know how to improve relations between a new spouse and a child.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, mom has no right to feel guilty for starting to communicate with another man. A woman has the right to personal happiness, and a child can take a man with hostility only for the first time, showing his significant role in this family.
Step 2
Most of all, the child worries that the mother will love him much less than the new husband and that this is worth talking about and allaying the baby's fears. You need to tell him that a mother can never love her child less than any man, love for children is special, love for men is completely different and you should not worry about this.
Step 3
You also need to correctly introduce a new person into the family, do it not abruptly, but gradually. First, you need to introduce the child to his stepfather in neutral territory, organize joint walks, trips to the cinema, and only then directly introduce him to the family.
Step 4
It is very important that the man himself is interested in improving relations with the baby. He must do everything to win the child's trust. Children are very sensitive to falsity and insincerity, so they cannot be deceived.
Step 5
It is best for a man to be interested in what the child loves, so it will be easier to find topics for contact, perhaps there will really be a lot of them.
Step 6
There is no need to try to put a man in the father's place, especially if the child already has a father, and the baby communicates with him, otherwise strong resentment and even hatred may arise. Dad is dad, and stepfather is something completely different, at first he should be just a good friend.
Step 7
With a child, you can never compare your ex-husband with the current one, for him, in any case, his own dad will always be better.
Step 8
In no case should the stepfather speak unflatteringly about the child's own dad, even if there is reason for this. Such issues should be resolved exclusively together, without the participation of a small person.
Step 9
It is necessary to show that the new spouse is very wise, that he is the head of the family, that you can always turn to him for help and advice. Let the child understand that the stepfather is his main support.
Step 10
If a mother can competently organize the relationship of her child with her stepfather, then she will be able to avoid many unpleasant situations.
