Unfortunately, it is not always possible to preserve the first marriage. Sometimes things don't go as planned, and divorce seems like a great solution. After a divorce, a woman, as a rule, meets another man with whom she wants to connect her life. If you have a child from your first marriage, then building relationships between a man and a stepson or stepdaughter becomes an important aspect. The main role in this issue is played by a woman.
Instructions
Step 1
It is necessary to acquaint a son or daughter with a future stepfather in advance. It is too cruel and thoughtless to confront a son or daughter with the fact of a wedding decision. It is not often that a man and a child find a common language immediately, especially if a man does not have children of his own and the experience of communicating with them is extremely small. Therefore, do not be upset if contact is not immediately established. You need to tell your son or daughter more about the man, note his positive traits, and the man about the child, say that he loves than he is fond of, so it will be easier to find common ground and quickly establish good relationships.
Step 2
The threesome of pastime - trips to nature, walks around the city, taking into account the opinion of the child, contributes to finding a common language between the child and the stepfather. Common affairs bring together and unite.
Step 3
The question often arises - how can a child contact his stepfather? Often women force a child to call his stepfather "dad", regardless of the fact that he does not always want it. This is not desirable if there is a natural father and the child communicates with him. The best option is to call by name, it is better to leave the choice for the child, otherwise, conflicts and the development of complexes in the child cannot be avoided.
Step 4
A good option is if the stepfather becomes an older friend for the stepson or stepdaughter, with whom you can consult in a difficult situation, trust him in case of a problem.
Step 5
Upbringing issues often become a stumbling block. Experts recommend not to remove the stepfather from the educational process. There should be unity in upbringing - if the mother does not allow, then the stepfather should not cancel the prohibition, or vice versa, this also applies to punishments for misconduct. It is important here that the stepfather is just, and not just an executor of punishment, in this case, the question of the authority of the stepfather in the eyes of the child is not.
Step 6
Often, a woman takes the side of her son or daughter, even if they are wrong, comes into conflict with the new husband with the child, thereby reducing his authority in the eyes of her son or daughter. Even if the stepfather is wrong, it is still better to discuss it in private.
Step 7
In building relationships between a stepson or stepdaughter, a woman sometimes has to be a subtle psychologist.
