It doesn't matter how old your daughter is - 1 year, 13 or 30 years old, the meaning of disobedience, negativism or protest is that the child wants to show his parents his adulthood and independence.
Instructions
Step 1
Respect your daughter, be proud, always talk about your love for her, even in moments of disobedience and whim, but at the same time focus on the fact that her unseemly actions and words cause you severe mental pain, and therefore punishment is a consequence of such behavior.
Step 2
If the attention of a baby 1-5 years old can be distracted from whims to another area of interest, the younger student can be forced to obey the requirements of his parents, then many do not know from a teenager what to expect. All that remains is to wait for the hormones to “settle down” and direct the girl in the right direction. But at the same time, constantly take an interest in her affairs sincerely, and not just for show.
Step 3
For example, a daughter is wearing makeup at the age of 10 - teach me how to use baby cosmetics; wears only expensive fashion brands - get a job during the holidays or give a to-do list with a price list; painted walls and a mess in the room - you will have to accept, its territory, but the rest of the rooms of the apartment should be perfect cleanliness.
Step 4
Before deciding on punishment, try to understand the reason for the child's behavior. Sometimes there is a noble motive behind a child's misconduct, but due to the short-sightedness and maximalism of the child, the next "nasty" is obtained. For example, to please her mother, her daughter made a biscuit for the first time, taking the last 25 eggs and half a bottle of wine and dirtying the kitchen to a disgrace.
Step 5
Prohibitions will also not lead to anything, but will only stir up children's curiosity, so answer all the child's questions sincerely and in detail. Remember, while the girl is asking questions, it means that something is not clear to her, if she turns her attention to other interests, then the question is over. By the way, your child can receive answers to his questions from other persons, but where is the guarantee that this information will not harm the baby.
Step 6
If the girl defends her territory, then she is right in principle, then together draw up a charter, where you will write down the rights and obligations of each family member, as well as penalties for violation of the contract. For example, for excellent academic performance throughout the school year, a daughter is awarded a trip to the sea, and poor grades for the year will lead to a labor camp.
Step 7
Make it a rule to be interested in each other's affairs every evening, to help in word and deed, to share family problems. A child who is included in the life of the family lives with the problems of his parents and will cause them less pain. For example, a daughter will not ask for a new fur coat, knowing that her father was laid off at work, or she will take on household chores, knowing that after the operation, mother should not be overworked for six months.
