The problem of any family is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. What kind of relationship is there between a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law, and what are the problems usually associated with?
One of the reasons for the disagreement between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law is cohabitation. Two mistresses in the house are a problem. The mother-in-law has her own rules, established in the family for years, and the daughter-in-law comes from a completely different family, which also had her own rules. Therefore, mainly quarrels arise due to everyday problems. I put it in the wrong place, washed the floor or dishes in the wrong way, things in the closet are not stacked correctly and much more. If the young people live separately, rarely see their husband's parents, these problems disappear. Unfortunately, not really.
There are mothers-in-law who try to manage a young family even from a distance. Or the favorite pastime of a harmful mother-in-law is to appear at a party completely without warning, to check how the house is cleaned, whether dinner is prepared or not, whether the shirts and trousers of her beloved son are ironed. And after such checks, making sure that everything was not the way she wanted, she called her son with complaints and criticism of her daughter-in-law. Thus, bringing quarrels to their family.
Any mother always takes the side of her own child, no matter how old he is, forgetting that next to her child is also someone's child. It is especially difficult for those girls who married a guy who is the only child in the family, and even maybe late.
A mother who throughout her life gave all of herself only to him, sacrificing interests and a career, will not be able to part with her child. Therefore, it will be very difficult for a girl with such a mother-in-law to establish a relationship.
Such mothers can be understood, because now very many women raise their children themselves, without the participation of the second parent. And giving her son to another woman, she may be afraid to remain completely alone and useless. Then the daughter-in-law should try to gently and very correctly explain to her that you are not at all going to take away her son forever. And you will be worthy support and support for her child.
The girl will be very lucky if her husband turns out to be not a mama's son. He will have his own opinion and listen to her, while not offending his mother.
We must not forget the fact that daughters-in-law are not always perfect. And they can also be the cause of quarrels, winding an overly obedient and gullible husband against their parents. The best relationship is between a daughter-in-law and a mother-in-law, when the mother-in-law approves in advance the choice of her son. Then she will do everything possible so that the children live in peace and harmony.
