Unfortunately, more often we see examples of unhealthy, oppressive relationships than those that please both parties. There are several ways you can tell a healthy relationship from an unhealthy one.
Equality along the hierarchical structure
For partnerships, the attitude “who is loved more is the main one” is unacceptable. People feel that they are equal to each other, so they respect each other and try to negotiate a compromise that you both arranged.
Recognition of the separateness of each other, not the illusion of unity
In partnerships, people recognize that their feelings, emotions, desires, thoughts and views may differ, and do not see anything wrong with this. In a relationship where partners are dependent on each other, people cherish the illusion of the integrity of everything in the world, they do not see the line between themselves and their partner.
Concentration on yourself, not on a partner
In unhealthy relationships, people focus on what their partner is doing and not doing instead of taking care of themselves and responding adequately to their desires and doing something to improve the relationship.
Cooperation instead of resistance
In partnerships, people willingly compromise, looking for ways to resolve various disagreements without conflict. In unhealthy relationships, on the contrary, manipulation is often used in order to achieve one's goal in spite of everything in the world, even the needs and desires of a loved one.
Respect instead of criticism
In unhealthy relationships, partners are often unhappy with something, including each other. There is simply no such thing in a good partnership. Humor and lightness reign there, because the partners respect each other and clearly know where the boundaries of what is permitted.
