A person who cannot build long-lasting and lasting family relationships is said to be under a curse - the crown of celibacy. This mysterious phenomenon has been known for a long time, and women are especially susceptible to it, from generation to generation repeating the fate of their grandmothers and mothers. However, psychologists believe that the crown of celibacy very often has quite rational reasons and is a kind of neurolinguistic programming.
The crown of celibacy or the peculiarities of upbringing?
Very often you can find sexy and beautiful girls who either remain single, or quickly get divorced and raise children without the participation of their father. Is there something mystical and mysterious in this phenomenon? Situations, of course, are different, but most often a woman's loneliness is her personal choice or a consequence of her upbringing.
Why do women repeat the unhappy fate of their grandmothers and mothers? The famous psychologist Eric Byrne argued that the scripts for the lives of children are written by their parents. In many families, there are stereotypes that mothers instill in their daughters from childhood. Men think only of themselves, they are "deceitful", "cheaters" and "alcoholics". If a girl hears such epithets from childhood, she, unwittingly, begins to live according to the laws of her mother and at her prompting.
Such a girl carries a charge of negativity aimed at men, she does not trust them in advance and is afraid of close relationships. Men subconsciously feel this and avoid negative-minded beauties. And if a family is created, then it usually does not exist for long. And then the "kind" mother states with triumph: "I told you so!"
Young ladies who grew up with loving parents with the attitude “I am a princess” also face the problem of finding a worthy couple. But those girls who in childhood were considered idiots, clumsy and "ugly ducklings", most often grow up in the belief that they are not needed by anyone. Therefore, they are not looking for anyone, and rare men who are interested in them are repulsed because of mistrust and fear.
Very often, the rumor "puts on" the crown of celibacy on successful and attractive women with high self-esteem, who simply cannot find a worthy match. A purposeful woman who knows what she wants out of life cannot love and accept a weak or less successful man. But loneliness in this case is a woman's choice.
How to remove the psychological crown of celibacy?
To get rid of the celibacy crown requires serious work on yourself. First, it's worth deciding whether you really want to get married. Many modern women are quite satisfied with freedom and they consciously or unconsciously choose such partners who will not encroach on their independence, for example, married men.
Try to identify the cause of your loneliness. If any candidate for husbands is rejected by your mother, maybe you should still insist on your own? Mothers, of course, wish their children happiness, but they forget that it will not be possible to live a life for a child.
If you scare men away with your complexes and stiffness, try to get rid of these qualities and raise self-esteem. And a psychologist will help you with this. Girls with a veiled self-esteem, on the contrary, are encouraged to reconsider their claims. After all, while you are looking for a free oligarch, a nice and loving guy, whom you simply do not see, may walk nearby.
And one last tip: stop thinking only about marriage. A girl in an overly active search can scare any potential groom. Live life to the fullest, and the right person will definitely appear in it!
