Many parents argue that there are only two approaches to parenting - strict and permissive. This is an absolutely wrong statement.
A child can be brought up both in strictness and in permissiveness. If you constantly expose the child to all kinds of punishment and repression, then this will not lead to good. He can harbor a grudge against you, withdraw. Moreover, he may have big problems and misunderstandings with his children in the future. But everything cannot be allowed.
If the child is not limited in anything at all, then he will become careless and spoiled. This will interfere with him at school, and when communicating with children, and then at work. In addition, the child may think that his parents simply do not want and do not want to take care of his upbringing, but let everything take its course. This is also not good. It is impossible to go into these two extremes, you need to combine both approaches, then it will be easier to raise a child, and this upbringing will in no way harm his future life and psyche.
The correctness of this judgment can be confirmed by many cases and examples. Each of us in life was fortunate, probably, to observe other families. And many of us have the same impression of strict parents. It is those families where children are raised liberally seem to be more attractive to us. It is these families that can be called a standard, and set them as an example to others.
You should not begin to educate a child's discipline from infancy. At this age, children do not understand this, they are calm, and cannot do many serious troubles. Babies need to be given love, tenderness and care. But disciplinary skills should be developed at the age of one. Right now, the child begins to actively move, learn about the world, and often does it either outside the box or too actively. Therefore, it is very important to take into account all the individual characteristics of your child when raising.
No one argues that there are such angel children, when raising them, you do not need to make a lot of effort. But there are also kids with character. It is with these that problems arise. To force a child to obey, you do not need to swear at him and shout, let alone beat him. You just need to instill in him the skill of listening to the comments of adults. Then the child will quickly realize what he has done, and this will not harm his psyche.
It is important to remember that colossal tragedies will never arise. After all, what terrible thing can a two-year-old do? That's right, nothing! Therefore, you do not need to strive to eliminate all the shortcomings of your child at once, but educate his discipline gradually and step by step!
