How does a person's will develop, and also at what age can volitional qualities be developed in a baby? This question is very important for everyone who has children, as well as who wants to raise them to be brave, resilient and self-possessed people. In turn, will is not an innate quality of a person. A child is not born with a ready-made strong or weak will, it cannot be inherited. This quality is formed in the process of raising a baby.
Instructions
Step 1
If a child is always surrounded by excessive care of adults, and he also does not have to make any efforts to achieve what he wants, then it is unlikely that such a child will grow into a person with persistent assertions and a strong character.
Step 2
Sometimes parents say: "Well, what else can you expect from a three-year-old child? After all, he is still very small and does not understand anything. When he grows up, then we will ask."
However, this is a misjudgment. It is necessary to demand from the baby, of course, only within the limits of his capabilities, from a very early age, starting from the moment when the baby begins to understand the speech addressed to him, and he himself masters it.
Step 3
At the same time, mature will is a very mature quality. Naturally, in this case, one cannot speak of the will of a very young child in the understanding that is embedded in the meaning of mature will in an adult. However, we can talk about the beginnings of manifestations of will, even in young children. Such rudiments are expressed:
- the child has a certain desire to achieve the goal;
- in maintaining this goal, despite the delay or distractions;
- in the ability to postpone or delay one's desire, that is, the presence of patience;
- in the ability to overcome one's unwillingness in order to achieve a goal.
Step 4
In order to develop these inclinations, it is necessary to adhere to certain rules in raising a child. First of all, a certain daily routine and routine should be established so that the child knows exactly how, when and what he should do: get up, walk, eat, go to bed, wash his hands before eating, and remove toys before going to bed. All this teaches the baby to be accurate and thereby contributes to the development of strong-willed traits of his character.
Step 5
Adults should always be very honest with the child, that is, always keep their word. After all, this often happens: in order to console the baby, they promise him a lot - to buy toys, to play on the phone, and to ride on a swing. In this case, the child stops crying or being capricious, but expects the promised. Adults, on the other hand, immediately forget about their own promise and sometimes do not fulfill it. As a result, the child gets used to not trusting the promises of the parents. And also he himself learns to easily make certain promises, and subsequently not to fulfill them. At the same time, he is not brought up responsibility for his words. On the contrary, irresponsibility and lack of will begins to develop.
Step 6
Gradually bring up in the child the ability to master his own desires, feelings, teach him to restrain himself, to overcome his feelings of fear, pain, and also resentment. All this strengthens and trains his will.
