If they send you obsessive letters, SMS, constantly call and try to catch on the street, then you have a stalker. This is usually a former boyfriend or just a crazy fan who likes you. You should not put up with this state of affairs, because his behavior is unpredictable and can turn into dire consequences.
Make it clear that this person is not interesting to you and you cannot have any relationship. In addition, in a confident and firm voice, tell him not to call, write or harass you. If you have a young man, let him talk to him, perhaps seeing a strong man, he will get scared and leave you alone.
Avoid any contact with the stalker
Change your phone number and email, tell everyone you know not to tell anyone about you. Refuse to use social networks, or restrict access to them. If you are renting an apartment, change your place of residence. Change the route to work, go to another store, use other establishments. Try to knock him off the trail so that he will lose you. It is advisable to do this quickly and discreetly so that he does not have time to react and track you down again.
Try not to contact him. Do not answer calls, throw away gifts, envelopes and parcels that he sends. If you see on the street, go to the other side or come back. Do not give in to provocations, do not answer and do not enter into a discussion. Feeling a response from you, he can intensify his efforts.
Record what is happening and collect evidence. Store them not at home, but in a safe deposit box. Leave all the information that you know about him there. When there is enough evidence against the stalker, contact the police to influence him. Tell your friends and family about the cell so that if you suddenly disappear, they can use it.
Protect yourself and your loved ones
Install burglar alarms, strong doors and locks, bars on windows in the house. When choosing an apartment, give preference to the middle floors. As a last resort, live with friends the persecutor doesn't know about.
Wear comfortable shoes and clothing so you can escape if needed. Stay away from the pursuer, avoid dark alleys, walk in crowded places. Ask the men to greet you after work. Always carry your phone with you and enter emergency numbers on it.
Think about how to act in a critical situation. Imagine different scenarios, and come up with a plan for each. Prepare all the necessary things, collect documents in one place. Find where you can hide in case of a threat to life, leave money and food there. Tell about it only to the closest people you trust.
Learn to self-defense, carry with you self-defense equipment, for example, pepper spray. Get a large dog to guard you on walks and the house when you are away. Train in running to be able to escape from the pursuer.
