"She is my friend and I have every right to spend my free time with her" - how many women can hear such words in their relationships or even in an already established family. Everyone decides who is to blame and what to do and whether or not to do anything at all, but practice shows that one should not remain indifferent to such a situation.
A real friend or a threat to a relationship
First, you need to figure out if the friend is just a friend or still needs to be seen as a potential threat to your relationship.
In the definition of the word "friendship" each of us puts different concepts. For some, this is frequent communication, it does not matter, for sad or funny reasons, daily correspondence, household help on demand, escort to theme stores, in the assortment of which a woman supposedly knows little and without him, her faithful friend, she will never cope and so on. For others, these are holiday greetings and rare, usually surrounded by other people, meetings. The friend from the second situation is really safe and is unlikely to be a stumbling block for your relationship, but the friend from the first situation is better to neutralize right away.
Intimate talk
First of all, your relationship concerns only two - you and your man. A third person should not interfere in family proceedings, conduct any hidden conversations with her, or even more so threaten behind the back of his chosen one. Such actions, firstly, call into question your self-confidence in his eyes, and men do not like notorious women, and secondly, this will once again prove to a potential rival that she is on the right track, since you think that your half sympathizes to her.
Choose the right moment when his head is not full of extraneous problems, cook a delicious dinner and, in a romantic setting, start a conversation about friends and girlfriends in general. Then, somehow at ease, go to the very person, because of whom you, in fact, started everything, and then tell us about your wishes. It is the wishes, not the requirements - this is important! Thus, you will not cause aggression, but once again demonstrate your femininity and show how much you need his attention and care. A loving man will hear you and keep communication with such friends to a minimum.
It is bad if the situation does not change, then the reason must be looked for deeper, and not in an annoying friend who would gladly be in your place.
If your relationship is just beginning and you notice pseudo-friends in his environment, then the task is simplified. You should not worry too much about this, because for men who were in free relationships or without them at all, the presence of such women in the life of such women is rather the norm, and over time, when building clear boundaries on your part, all meetings with the so-called girlfriends will come to naught. All you need is the right approach and the ability to calmly conduct a dialogue, without overdoing it with your rules and requirements.
