How to call parents: you or you? This question was especially relevant at the beginning of the 20th century, when love and respect for parents could only be imposed by maintaining an artificial distance in communication between two different generations. Is there such a need today?
Instructions
Step 1
In the old Russian way of communication, there was no choice how to address parents: you or you. Peter I introduced the tradition of addressing his father and mother to Russia, with the introduction of the rules of etiquette borrowed from the Germans. At first, this tradition appeared as a fashion, but over time, turning to your parents for you became a necessity.
Step 2
"Mom, how beautiful you are now!" Such praise addressed to the closest person was especially popular at the beginning of the 20th century. It was believed that through an appeal to the parents, the child is instilled in you from childhood that the father and mother are the most revered people. Do not forget that this tradition became especially popular at a time when it was impossible to show love for children. Education was based on learning to be useful to society and to carry out the policy of the party. Accordingly, if there were no manifestations of love and care on the part of the parents, where did the response from the children come from? You cannot force a child to feel respect for a parent, but you can force, to cultivate the habit of thinking of parents with reverence, referring to them as to the powers that be.
Step 3
We were more fortunate. Today, no one argues that love and care for a child should be shown from the first days until the moment when he himself moves away from us. Loving and demonstrating that love, as well as caring and understanding. Then the child naturally has a feeling of security, then a feeling of self-confidence, and as a result, there is a need to take care of the parents and honor them, regardless of the appeal to you. How can you hug someone you call for you tightly?
Step 4
Today, the rules of etiquette tell us that you cannot go over to you in dealing with a person with whom you have a significant difference in age or social status. Most people use contact with you to build a psychological barrier in communicating with strangers. But today we will hardly be able to meet young people who would turn to their father for you.
