In anticipation of an important meeting, people often fantasize, imagine what will happen and how. But often an unpleasant aftertaste remains after it. You need to sort out the conflicting feelings and understand how unsuccessful the date was, whether it is worth continuing the communication.
After an unsuccessful date, the soul becomes hard, doubts arise about how to behave further. Sorting out feelings can be difficult. Psychologists advise paying attention to the signs that accompany all failed meetings. Getting to know them will help you better understand the situation. After that, perhaps, there will be relief, since it will become clear that you should not waste your time on such a person anymore.
Do not let the phones out of hand
One of the biggest signs of a failed date is boredom. If in the process of communication people do not let their phones out of their hands, they are not interested in each other. Endless calls and messaging indicate that there are things that are much more important than this meeting. There are, of course, exceptions. For example, if telephone calls are related to urgent work. But in this case, the person must explain his behavior. Exploring social media while on a date speaks for itself. If at the first meetings it is boring, what will happen next? It is worth deciding whether such a person is so important. You don't need a partner to spend an evening on your phone.
The distance has not decreased
When people are interested in each other, you want bodily rapprochement. It's not about allowing yourself everything on the first date. But with mutual sympathy, there will certainly be a desire to close the distance. Even if the relationship has not reached a more personal level, you can always touch your hand, sit down closer, brush away non-existent specks of dust from your interlocutor's shoulder. If none of this is there, then most likely things are bad. Tactile contact is very important, so there is no need to justify its absence with excessive modesty. If there were attempts to get closer, and this caused rejection in the partner, it is pointless to harbor illusions. The unwillingness of the interlocutors to look each other in the eyes can also be considered a lack of rapprochement. This is a very subtle signal that should alert you. If a person does not look at a potential partner, constantly averts his eyes, studies the menu for a long time, or just looks at a plate, then he has no interest.
The conversation didn't go well
If people feel good together, then more often than not finding a topic for conversation is not a problem. And when the conversation doesn't go well, there are awkward pauses. We have to squeeze out some kind of routine phrases. The question arises, isn't it better to scatter right away. It may be a matter of being overly shy, but by the end of the date, you can be liberated. If this does not happen, the meeting can be considered a failure. Next time you need to think carefully before agreeing to such communication. You can be silent alone.
Stories about the ex
It's not customary to talk about your ex on a date. If the object of sympathy allows himself this, it means that he is either badly brought up, or is not interested in further meetings. When, during a conversation, phrases about unsuccessful relationships, about exes, problems in the former family slip through every now and then, you need to draw appropriate conclusions. We have to admit that the date was not successful.
Nobody was nervous
The beginning of a relationship is always very exciting. On first dates, people are unwittingly nervous, they want to impress the object of sympathy. It always feels intuitive. When the meeting is too casual and there is a feeling that the interlocutor just came to talk, laugh and joke, and not like it, the date can be considered a failure. Such a relationship can develop into friendship, but it is unlikely that something serious will come of it.
Quickly said goodbye
When there is sympathy, you absolutely do not want to say goodbye to a person. At the end of the meeting, one can judge how well it went. If a man suddenly had something to do and he could not carry it out, but simply called a taxi, things are really bad. Of course, there may be objective reasons for this behavior, but in this case there will be clear explanations and questions about when you can call next time. A dry goodbye is a signal that this meeting is most likely the last. Perhaps this is for the best. It is better not to develop a hopeless relationship from the very beginning. Even if a man calls, not everyone will have a desire to repeat the bad experience. For some, conversations near the entrance, long goodbye conversations seem to be excessive sentimentality, but this is much better than just saying "goodbye" to each other.
