Treason … How many paradoxical emotions are in it. This is taboo voluptuousness, and treacherous attraction, and fear, and excitement, and incomprehensible pain. Cheating is a fact that life sometimes confronts. A fact that changes absolutely everything and excludes any possibility of ignoring.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, both of you should dot the i's. Otherwise, the lack of agreement will gradually open up into an insurmountable abyss. The longer you remain silent and try to suppress the emotions that arise because of his infidelity, the more unbearable you will become. Not to mention the fact that one fine moment this overgrown pain will arrogantly swallow your psychologically weakened nature. Don't let this happen.
Step 2
Tell how you feel, do not be afraid to seem wounded, because this can provoke a completely inappropriate reaction on his part. Find out (as far as possible) what factors prompted him to betray.
Step 3
It would be useful in such a situation to be a little apart. Sometimes, in order to understand how you treat a person, it is enough to deprive yourself of his society. Then, alone with yourself, focusing exclusively on your own experiences, you will probably be able to "recover" from your personal drama, completely and selflessly. Perhaps you will even find in this a kind of pacification, akin to catharsis. Do not be intimidated by this in yourself, for it is quite possible to psychologically rehabilitate yourself, to cleanse yourself of the mentally consuming pain through compassion for yourself.
Step 4
After successfully catharsising and finally feeling relative harmony, continue to listen to your inner self. Decide on a niche that you are ready to allow your man to occupy after all that happened. Of course, based on, among other things, what attempts he is making (and whether he is making!) To preserve your relationship.
Step 5
Try to forgive him for his physiological statement and moral inconsistency … In the end, he is just a man, weak, frightened and in many ways humiliated. It is not his fault that you managed to see in him something much more than he really was. It's all to blame for the overestimated expectations of some and the total inability of others to meet them. Forgive him once and for all, forgive for your own sake, for this is the only possible way to find balance. Keep in mind that forgiveness does not oblige you to stay, nor does it oblige you to leave. Its essence lies in liberation from the internal clutches, surreal and contrived, but quite capable of poisoning your further existence.
