The couple broke up. One partner left. And the second continues to love him. How easy is it to deal with this?
Instructions
Step 1
Delete the number, block it on social networks, throw out the pictures, burn the sheets. Self-isolate in every possible way both from the object of suffering itself and from any mention of it. Thus, save yourself from many stupid situations, such as drunken messages or calls. You will feel sorry to look, performing such actions, and the former love will only strengthen in the correctness of its decision to place you in your personal hell.
Step 2
Be sure to devote some time to suffering, when there is still a chance, standing drunk on the balcony, over the night city, with hair fluttering in the wind on my chest, yelling “I am free, in reality, and not in the dark …” well, or just let a mean man's tear under the Blue lyrics number 1. In the female version, we replace the hair on the chest with picturesquely flowing curls of a slightly careless hairstyle, and Kipelova with Khim's “In Joy and Sorrow”. Do not devote more than one weekend to suffering. It is inappropriate to spend more time on this business, thereby we distance ourselves from our goal. And drinking a lot is harmful.
Step 3
Look, the first stage is destructive actions. The second is destructive emotions. What is the third? Constructive actions. But emotions are still destructive, enjoy. The essence of this stage is to start feeling rage instead of nostalgia. Someone else is with him / her now. He / she is now being caressed by someone's hands. He / she is now looking at someone with burning loving eyes. And everyone has already forgotten about you. When this awareness comes in its entirety, then many go the very dubious path of "substitution therapy" or "knock out a wedge by a wedge". But don't. Do not. The wise are right when they say that do not exchange yourself for the available, risking worthy ones. Your worthy ones are yet to come. What kind of constructive actions did I mention, you ask? The third point is so big, so I'll talk about it in the fourth. In the meantime, we are experiencing wild rage … Rrr
Step 4
We start to act. Significant changes in life are coming. You need to master a new area of knowledge. It is desirable, absolutely not overlapping with your main specialization. For example, if you are a math teacher, enroll in aikido. And if a boxer, then master object-oriented programming. If you are already a boxer programmer, then start (and be sure to follow through!) Learning the Croatian language. But, probably, there is absolutely nothing I can do to help Croatian boxers with programming skills. Sorry guys.
Step 5
The stage of insight. By starting to master a new field of human activity or knowledge out of pure rage, you have a great advantage of the motivational type.
A mathematics teacher with an empty gaze directed to infinity, before whose eyes there was an image of her “beloved”, and who did not notice herself breaking and folding huge technical men in kimonos in half, received among them the respectful nickname “Mater”. The boxer, whose muse flew to some bogeyman named Kirill, spending nights in front of the computer, unexpectedly releases a mobile game hit “Kill Kirill” and suddenly becomes a millionaire thanks to attracted advertisers and investors. Our Mother, meanwhile, realizes that her former dead man is no longer standing before her eyes, at which now she would not even look. But that muscular brunette, perhaps the only one who could now compete with her on an equal footing on the tatami, looks at her with such a look that the long-forgotten butterflies again begin to flutter somewhere in the lower abdomen, more and more persistently rising higher, and higher, and higher … to the heart.
The artist, who, working for hire, created the image of the now unforgettable Cyril, sincerely admired the mathematical talents of her boss, so there is no tea in him, and then it happened … money. After a couple of seconds, they lay passed out, and the boss-what-she-thought-mathematician stood, tenderly looking at her, and anxiously asked if she was all right? For some reason he asked in Croatian.. She had a Croatian grandfather, she understood.. she understood … He is the man of her dreams.
Step 6
These stories from point 5 should have explained everything to you, but if not, then I will. As a result of a breakup, you may find yourself in a situation where self-improvement = solving a problem for the only time in your life. The chance is truly unique and it is more likely to feel sorry for your departed partner, because he may never get it. Note that I am not saying that it is easy to learn a programming language or become an aikido master. Not. It's complicated. But with such a fierce motivation, it is real. And this path, I mean self-improvement, is certainly a simple (and very useful) way to stop loving a person who has left you, who now does not like at all. You yourself have become a person of a different, higher quality. And you will be surrounded by people worthy of it.
