Becoming an unwitting witness to someone else's secret is not always pleasant, especially when it comes to your close friends. One of these secrets is cheating on your girlfriend's spouse. It would seem that the most correct decision is to tell her about the traitor, but in life everything is much more complicated and the truth is not always good.
Why you shouldn't talk about cheating
By bringing bad news to your family, you will unwittingly become the person your friend will avoid. This happens in most cases when the friend herself suspects her husband's infidelity, but is not sure, knows, but still stays with him or does not know that the husband has begun to cheat.
Realizing that you are aware of an unpleasant situation for your friend will cause her to distance herself from you. You will become reminiscent of a painful moment or add awkwardness if the friend continues to live with her spouse.
By confirming suspicions of cheating, you will make your friend aware of an unpleasant fact for her. Very often, despite the assurances that a friend is ready to leave and start a new life, having learned about her husband's betrayal, she will still look for an opportunity to sort out the relationship and maybe save it. This is especially true for families in which the husband is cheating, but does not leave and does not want to get divorced.
If a friend knows about her husband's betrayal, but continues to live with him, your message will force you to expose those painful points that she has been trying to hide all this time. Again, you will become a person for her, who will now be aware of an unpleasant situation.
If your friend is unaware of cheating, such news can be shocking. The first reaction in this case is distrust and, first of all, to you. If, at the same time, she and her husband manage to reconcile and smooth out this situation, saving the family, you may even become an outcast in this couple. If the family eventually collapses, especially with children, the spouses may blame you for their troubles. This is a kind of defensive reaction to an unpleasant situation.
Fear that a friend will not forgive silence
Very often women who dare to present such an unpleasant message argue that they cannot offend their friend with silence. In such situations, they begin to feel like conspirators on the side of their spouse.
In fact, the fact that you were silent rarely comes up. If the husband's infidelity is revealed, the spouses first of all sort out the relationship with each other, and do not try to clarify who knows about it and who does not. In the future, if a friend decides to share this problem with you, only you can say that you knew everything and thereby offend your friend.
In order not to harm anyone with your hasty actions, having decided not to tell your friend about her husband's betrayal, do not inform your mutual acquaintances about it. By keeping this fact silent in the future, you will be able to maintain further relations with your friend and support her if she decides to devote you to her family problems.
