The purpose of any quarrel is to change attitudes for the better or to achieve some specific result. Therefore, it is very important to understand what to say and how to behave during a conflict. Of course, if in the end, you want to get what you want and get what you want after a quarrel.
So how should you quarrel with your husband?
1. Don't raise your tone. This will only cause unnecessary aggression from the husband, and it will be much more difficult to get something out of him.
2. Do not humiliate your husband, his family, friends. Eliminate negative words from your speech. Everyone understands that any insults during a quarrel do not lead to anything good.
3. Don't make fun of your husband's hobbies. Better to use them correctly during conflict. Try to manipulate them carefully.
4. Do not remember past grievances, in response the husband will remember his own.
5. Do not touch sick topics. So you run the risk of going deeper into the main conflict and developing it to the scale of a global scandal.
6. Listen to your husband without interrupting. Let him talk. Then, deftly use his findings to your advantage.
7. Do not draw conclusions for him, do not attribute hidden meaning to his words and actions. Take everything as he said.
8. Talk about your feelings, about yourself, and do not criticize. Start phrases with "I …" and not with "You …".
9. Know how to defuse the situation with a joke. With the help of good humor, you can easily get out of an unnecessary turn of the conflict, deploying it in a profitable direction.
10. Do not try to blackmail your husband. Nothing. Never. Even if it works one day, the next time it will be much more difficult. Besides, he can in fact blackmail in return. As a result, you will not get a conflict to achieve a goal, but problems in your marriage.
11. Admit your guilt and ask for forgiveness. Sometimes this is the most successful and simple trick to achieve what you want.
12. Never discuss your quarrels with friends, family. Sooner or later, the husband will find out about this, and it will be more difficult to achieve what he wants.
